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#1801 ReGorLaTroy

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Posted 02 November 2017 - 07:57 PM

View PostBoots, on 01 November 2017 - 08:31 PM, said:

I realize that I could leave this forum for a week or a month and no one would notice or care. I always get left out of TRF polls and most of the popularity threads.  I still don't have a custom title.  I guess I don't have to donate money to the forum.
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#1802 Laurabw

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Posted 02 November 2017 - 09:53 PM

missing a friend who left me.

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Posted 02 November 2017 - 10:05 PM

View PostLaurabw, on 02 November 2017 - 09:53 PM, said:

missing a friend who left me.

It's an awful feeling.  Hope it's not permanent.  If you're like me, you've got a small handful of cherished friends, and the absence of one leaves a very large space.

#1804 Laurabw

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Posted 02 November 2017 - 10:08 PM

View Posttoymaker, on 02 November 2017 - 10:05 PM, said:

View PostLaurabw, on 02 November 2017 - 09:53 PM, said:

missing a friend who left me.

It's an awful feeling.  Hope it's not permanent.  If you're like me, you've got a small handful of cherished friends, and the absence of one leaves a very large space.
it's exactly like that. sigh.

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Posted 02 November 2017 - 10:09 PM

and i'm sorry for your rough anniversary, and your other stuff too...

Edited by Laurabw, 02 November 2017 - 10:13 PM.


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Posted 02 November 2017 - 11:52 PM

I had the realization today that I no longer have any close IRL friends. My 3 closest friends left my life forever within the last 2 years. I've tried to rebuild but I know the people I meet today will be gone again come May

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Posted 02 November 2017 - 11:57 PM

View PostUnion 5-3992, on 02 November 2017 - 11:52 PM, said:

I had the realization today that I no longer have any close IRL friends. My 3 closest friends left my life forever within the last 2 years. I've tried to rebuild but I know the people I meet today will be gone again come May

Union, when you say "left your life", how do you mean ??

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Posted 03 November 2017 - 12:07 AM

View PostLucas, on 02 November 2017 - 11:57 PM, said:

View PostUnion 5-3992, on 02 November 2017 - 11:52 PM, said:

I had the realization today that I no longer have any close IRL friends. My 3 closest friends left my life forever within the last 2 years. I've tried to rebuild but I know the people I meet today will be gone again come May

Union, when you say "left your life", how do you mean ??
One died, one moved to Vietnam, and another told me never to speak to them again (and understandably)

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Posted 03 November 2017 - 12:58 AM

View PostUnion 5-3992, on 03 November 2017 - 12:07 AM, said:

View PostLucas, on 02 November 2017 - 11:57 PM, said:

View PostUnion 5-3992, on 02 November 2017 - 11:52 PM, said:

I had the realization today that I no longer have any close IRL friends. My 3 closest friends left my life forever within the last 2 years. I've tried to rebuild but I know the people I meet today will be gone again come May

Union, when you say "left your life", how do you mean ??
One died, one moved to Vietnam, and another told me never to speak to them again (and understandably)

I have only a few friends - they are close, and most are from childhood

I don't know if this rings true with you Union, but over time, I have come to realize that I have a pretty bad fear of losing people - it could be a friend, a girlfriend or a family member ..

And I have come to realize just how destructive that can be - maybe "destructive" is the wrong word - I think counterproductive might be better ..

Instead of rehashing all the losses and negativity, I'll give an example of something positive, and something that has come as a result of years of learning the hard way ..

As I said, most of the few friends that I have go back to when I was a kid ... but in the past year, I have found someone who I consider a great friend ..

Long story short, I think this has happened because I had no idea when meeting this person that a friendship would develop - so, I didn't have that old fear hanging over me .. This girl knows my sis, and they are friends, so she kind of knew the vibe of my family ...I was just myself - not that I didn't care, but, but I didn't care to try to be anything or say anything that I wouldn't say to my sis or my family ...

And now we're great friends ... and completely platonic .. It's odd, because I really have never had a female friend that had not been at some point a girlfriend ..

I guess the point I am trying to make is that the old adage of just being yourself is not only important, but essential .... I have my old childhood friends because they know me - and I am not inhibited or worried in the least around them .. There is no fear of losing them ...

Union, take that thought of "they'll be gone come May" and use it to your advantage -- go into a new friendship thinking that you have nothing to lose .. Don't feel tight or on guard ..

Again, this may not apply to you, but I think it  helped me ...... A strange analogy is about people who drive intoxicated and when there is an accident, they are the ones who usually survive and don't get hurt - their muscles are not rigid and they are not tight going into the crash because they don't understand the severity of it ..... strange, but true ... and in an odd way, the same can be said for friendships ( ... not the intoxicated part, but ya know what I mean :lol: )

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Edited by Lucas, 03 November 2017 - 01:01 AM.


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Posted 03 November 2017 - 01:30 PM

View PostUnion 5-3992, on 02 November 2017 - 11:52 PM, said:

I had the realization today that I no longer have any close IRL friends. My 3 closest friends left my life forever within the last 2 years. I've tried to rebuild but I know the people I meet today will be gone again come May

I've been in situations where I didn't have contact with old friends for several years. Then one day out the blue we got back in contact, so I'd say hold the opportunity that you might reconnect open.

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Posted 03 November 2017 - 02:45 PM

View PostLaurabw, on 02 November 2017 - 09:53 PM, said:

missing a friend who left me.
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Posted 03 November 2017 - 03:21 PM

I'm feeling very high amounts of extroversion these days. That in itself is nothing to be sad about, but when I'm alone insecure thoughts come bubbling to the surface.

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Posted 03 November 2017 - 07:06 PM

View PostReGorLaTroy, on 03 November 2017 - 02:45 PM, said:

View PostLaurabw, on 02 November 2017 - 09:53 PM, said:

missing a friend who left me.
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Posted 07 November 2017 - 11:08 AM

Just discovered, through YouTube comments, that Holger Czukay had passed away in Sept.

He's probably best-known as the bassist for Can, and for playing on a handful of Eno albums.
He was also a pioneer of electronic music, and influenced the work of Eno, Bowie, The Fall, Joy Division and many others.
He also left many odd and interesting solo albums behind.
Thank you Mr. Czukay. You sure made my ears happy.







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Posted 07 November 2017 - 11:53 PM

Heard about Roy Halladay.  Tragic.  Rip from an Angels fan.

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Posted 10 November 2017 - 09:46 PM

My new job isn't working out...

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Posted 10 November 2017 - 11:11 PM

View PostLaurabw, on 02 November 2017 - 09:53 PM, said:

missing a friend who left me.

Sorry to hear this, Laura!  Hope it gets better soon!
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Posted 10 November 2017 - 11:15 PM

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View PostBoots, on 01 November 2017 - 08:31 PM, said:

I always get left out of TRF polls and most of the popularity threads.  I still don't have a custom title.
Is that worth being sad over? I'm seldom in a poll thread, and long timers like PolarizeMe also don't have a title.
I'm usually out of that loop, too, which I'm ok with.

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Posted 10 November 2017 - 11:17 PM

View Postinvisible airwave, on 07 November 2017 - 11:53 PM, said:

Heard about Roy Halladay.  Tragic.  Rip from an Angels fan.
I hadn't heard about this.  :(

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Posted 11 November 2017 - 05:14 PM

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