ericplayzbass Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 I've been going out with my girlfriend of right now for 13 months, but she doesn't like Rush, and that's kind of a deal breaker in the marriage field (only here could anyone understand that statement ) I am 17 (will be Eighteen on 9/6/10) Why is it so hard to find a girl my age like this: Favorite band: Rush (obviously) Religious views: doesn't really matter, preferably atheist or at least skeptical. Looks: aren't all that important but obviously plays a factor, I like red heads. Movies: comedies mostly, or Rush videos Likes computers With music being such a MASSIVE part of my life (taking up much of my day), a girl that doesn't like Rush is probably one of the worst things. Now my question to you ladies, am I setting my standards way too high and being unrealistic or does a woman like this exist? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tick Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmotionDetector Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 08:56 AM) Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. Definitely...take Tick's advice! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForceTen Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (EmotionDetector @ Aug 16 2010, 08:06 AM) QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 08:56 AM) Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. Definitely...take Tick's advice! Exactly. My wife never heard of Rush until we met as she was into other bands such as Go-Go's, Bangles, George Michael, etc (Clarification: this was 91 when we met ). After a while, she came to like Rush. Heck, she even said after the S&A concert that witnessing Tom Sawyer live was worth the price of admission alone. Just because she doesn't like Rush now, doesn't mean that she won't in the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mara Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (ForceTen @ Aug 16 2010, 10:52 AM) QUOTE (EmotionDetector @ Aug 16 2010, 08:06 AM) QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 08:56 AM) Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. Definitely...take Tick's advice! Exactly. My wife never heard of Rush until we met as she was into other bands such as Go-Go's, Bangles, George Michael, etc (Clarification: this was 91 when we met ). After a while, she came to like Rush. Heck, she even said after the S&A concert that witnessing Tom Sawyer live was worth the price of admission alone. Just because she doesn't like Rush now, doesn't mean that she won't in the future. So true, and in the grand scheme of things it really shouldn't matter that much (and I say this as a female whose Rush-love far exceeds that of her husband). It's nice, and necessary, to maintain interests independent of your SO's. Sure, it would be great if you found the perfect girl AND she loves Rush, but if not - well, it's one of those things you can enjoy with other friends. The only caveat would be if you found a girlfriend who not only hated the band but hated your love for them as well. When it crosses the line into "no, you're not listening to that band when I'm in the car" or worse: "no, I hate Rush and you're not going to the concert because I don't want to go and you aren't going to a concert without me", then there are problems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iluvgeddy05 Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (Mara @ Aug 16 2010, 10:53 AM) It's nice, and necessary, to maintain interests independent of your SO's. I can not express it enough how important this is. So, say you find The Woman in your life who loves Rush. Then you guys fight over other important stuff (finances, religion [what if she was super religious??], general beliefs) and you break up. Every time you hear Rush, you are going to think of her. Trust me. I'm quite happy my fiance is not into Rush like I am (though he likes them). It's my thing, always has been and I like it that way. If he loved the band, that'd be great, but it's not necessary by any means. And I'd be missing out on a helluva great man if I broke the deal over a band. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thing2jordan Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 I'm a Rush girl! Where's my Rush man? No, don't make that your main priority. If you do, you'll be very disappointed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForceTen Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (iluvgeddy05 @ Aug 16 2010, 11:06 AM) what if she was super religious?? Been there, done that. We're still together after 18+ years and she's not as religious as she once was. Guess all the debates between us had something to do with it. Not to mention the pastor was afraid we'd be divorced in "a few short years". See? Women CAN be trained. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iluvgeddy05 Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (ForceTen @ Aug 16 2010, 11:28 AM) QUOTE (iluvgeddy05 @ Aug 16 2010, 11:06 AM) what if she was super religious?? Been there, done that. We're still together after 18+ years and she's not as religious as she once was. Guess all the debates between us had something to do with it. Not to mention the pastor was afraid we'd be divorced in "a few short years". See? Women CAN be trained. bah! I think you're lucky though; some couples can't get past political/religious views. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForceTen Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (iluvgeddy05 @ Aug 16 2010, 11:48 AM) bah! I think you're lucky though; some couples can't get past political/religious views. You're absolutely right. I am very lucky to have my wife and she says the same about me. We respect and appreciate each other while realizing that we each need our own space as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doublereeder Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 Hah, I thought the same thing when it came to guys. But yeah, it was very disappointing. I wouldn't make not liking Rush a deal breaker, as long as you're happy it shouldn't matter; especially at the age of seventeen. Guys at my school obsess over the stupidest groups. I know your pain. Who knows, maybe she'll have a change of heart? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fridge Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (ericplayzbass @ Aug 16 2010, 11:43 AM) I've been going out with my girlfriend of right now for 13 months, but she doesn't like Rush, and that's kind of a deal breaker in the marriage field (only here could anyone understand that statement ) I am 17 (will be Eighteen on 9/6/10) Why is it so hard to find a girl my age like this: Favorite band: Rush (obviously) Religious views: doesn't really matter, preferably atheist or at least skeptical. Looks: aren't all that important but obviously plays a factor, I like red heads. Movies: comedies mostly, or Rush videos Likes computers With music being such a MASSIVE part of my life (taking up much of my day), a girl that doesn't like Rush is probably one of the worst things. Now my question to you ladies, am I setting my standards way too high and being unrealistic or does a woman like this exist? You have much to learn, young grasshopper.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ericplayzbass Posted August 16, 2010 Author Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE When it crosses the line into "no, you're not listening to that band when I'm in the car" or worse: "no, I hate Rush and you're not going to the concert because I don't want to go and you aren't going to a concert without me", then there are problems. that's exactly how it is. the music is really important to me. If she liked rock and roll in general, preferably classic rock, that would be totally fine, but she makes me listen to lady Gaga in the car, and it's infuriating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmotionDetector Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (ericplayzbass @ Aug 16 2010, 02:45 PM) the music is really important to me. If she liked rock and roll in general, preferably classic rock, that would be totally fine, but she makes me listen to lady Gaga in the car, and it's infuriating. So, make her listen to RUSH in YOUR car! Problem solved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForceTen Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (ericplayzbass @ Aug 16 2010, 01:45 PM) QUOTE When it crosses the line into "no, you're not listening to that band when I'm in the car" or worse: "no, I hate Rush and you're not going to the concert because I don't want to go and you aren't going to a concert without me", then there are problems. that's exactly how it is. the music is really important to me. If she liked rock and roll in general, preferably classic rock, that would be totally fine, but she makes me listen to lady Gaga in the car, and it's infuriating. Ahh, to be young, naive, and in love... Sometimes you have to concede in order to make things work. If the relationship is all about either of you, it most likely won't last. If the music is really the only thing that's bugging you about the relationship, that's small potatoes. At least you didn't have to escort your wife and girlfriends to a George Michael concert because they were afraid of being hit on... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheBlonde Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (Mara @ Aug 16 2010, 10:53 AM) The only caveat would be if you found a girlfriend who not only hated the band but hated your love for them as well. When it crosses the line into "no, you're not listening to that band when I'm in the car" or worse: "no, I hate Rush and you're not going to the concert because I don't want to go and you aren't going to a concert without me", then there are problems. QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 08:56 AM) Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. I agree with both Mara & Tick whole heartedly. I've been with my husband for 21 years now and he is far from a Rush fan. So far it's worked out just fine. There are some bands that we like as a couple, but for the most part I don't like his taste in music and he doesn't like mine. And it's totally fine because we connect on other levels. And at 17...why are you looking for marriage anyway? Get out there and enjoy your young life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Queen of Megadon Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 You've been dating since you were about 15 then? And you wonder if she's marriage type because she dislikes RUSH? While I wish you the best in your young love...please chill. The boy I loved at 17 is about 2 great loves, a husband and a myriad of lovers ago. You go enjoy RUSH, let her enjoy Gaga. Hell, enjoy LIFE! Besides, there are RUSH men on here that have been known to sing both Gaga and Alicia Keys...but I promised I'd never out them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the masked drummer Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 (edited) QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 07:56 AM) Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. Tick's got a point there. You may be being too selective. There are a lot of good girls out there who may not appreciate or like rush. My gf was never much of a rush fan, but she's getting into them now that she's with me. She's reading "ghost rider" right now and digging it. But to DEMAND that she be a rush fan before you marry her? That may be unrealistic. Don't shoot yourself in the foot, man! Edited August 16, 2010 by the masked drummer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ericplayzbass Posted August 16, 2010 Author Share Posted August 16, 2010 It's not that it would be impossible for me to be with a non-rush fan, but seeing as I spend on average 6-8 hours a day listening to rush, it would kinda hard to avoid, know what I mean? Love and emotion isn't a subject I am very knowledgeable on, as I usually try to approach things with reason, but when I started dating Shelby I threw off those chains of reason and my prison almost disappeared, except for the rush thing. I could care less that she's catholic at this point, but not liking rush is akin to telling me my whole family died. maybe not as bad, but close. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mara Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (the masked drummer @ Aug 16 2010, 03:43 PM) QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 07:56 AM) Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. Tick's got a point there. You may be being too selective. There are a lot of good girls out there who may not appreciate or like rush. My gf was never much of a rush fan, but she's getting into them now that she's with me. She's reading "ghost rider" right now and digging it. But to DEMAND that she be a rush fan before you marry her? That may be unrealistic. Don't shoot yourself in the foot, man! In all fairness, if my husband made me listen to GaGa I might be inclined to schedule a serious chat with him over that. Some things you just do not do to people you love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RUSHAMILEHIGH Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 The only Thing you can count on in life is CHANGE. If you have read TRF for any time you know many on this site like some Rush songs over others. If she doesn't Like Rush Now, She May Love Clock work Angels. My wife doesn't like Geddys voice, But she admits there isn't any Better Musicains that have ever Played Rock and Roll. Find some one you can live, Love And Laugh with!!! My wife is a big Aerosmith fame and when they played last summer I maid sure she could Look Steven Tyler in the eye. And when I asked If She wanted to see Rush this year she said to take a friend who is in to it and Enjoy yourself. LOVE= Supporting each other, and doing what you can to make each others lives as Great as Possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tarkus406 Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 QUOTE (Mara @ Aug 16 2010, 04:55 PM) QUOTE (the masked drummer @ Aug 16 2010, 03:43 PM) QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 07:56 AM) Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. Tick's got a point there. You may be being too selective. There are a lot of good girls out there who may not appreciate or like rush. My gf was never much of a rush fan, but she's getting into them now that she's with me. She's reading "ghost rider" right now and digging it. But to DEMAND that she be a rush fan before you marry her? That may be unrealistic. Don't shoot yourself in the foot, man! In all fairness, if my husband made me listen to GaGa I might be inclined to schedule a serious chat with him over that. Some things you just do not do to people you love. Agreed on the Lady Gaga thing. I don't think I could tolerate that at all Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ILSnwdog Posted August 16, 2010 Share Posted August 16, 2010 (edited) Dude...You're nineteen. You should be dating all kinds of different women. Learn what you like and what you dislike. You're still trying to find yourself. You are going to go through a lot of changes as you become the person that you want to be, and odds are that your idea of the perfect woman is going to change too. Don't worry about finding the perfect woman. When it happens you will know. I didn't meet Miss Right until I was 30. Be patient and date, date, date. Then when Miss Right does happen along, you will recognize that fact because you will have lots of experience to draw from. And picking your spouse should never be bases on musical taste alone. Try looking for someone who is considerate first. Edited August 16, 2010 by ILSnwdog Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rolinda Bonz Posted August 17, 2010 Share Posted August 17, 2010 QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 05:56 AM)Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. whatdya mean??? are you suggesting there's more to life than rush concerts? you kno i met this guy who was so totally awesome. we had similar political and religious beliefs...even compatible careers, for God's sake. but you know, his favorite album is Moving Pictures. i mean, it kno MP is in everybody's top 5 but ALL-TIME FAVORITE? really??? that just seems so superficial to me. like, r u for real or just one of those GreatestHits kind of fans? i'm a Vapor Trails girl, thru and thru. so forget it! [GeddyInRio] just forget it! [/GeddyInRio] seeeriously, epb, listen to me. there are about 10 female fans to every 100 male fans. and many of those females are old enough to be your mother. don't let your 17-year-old-snelf be limited to those odds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ericplayzbass Posted August 17, 2010 Author Share Posted August 17, 2010 I know, it's just that musical taste is #1 on my attractiveness scale. any girl around my age (between 16-22) that loves rush as much as me would already be bumped above a girl that's super-hot, nice, rich, but hates rush. I'm just weird like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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