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#101 The Analog Grownup

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Posted 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM

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Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 02:32 PM

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

I've known that feel.

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 02:43 PM

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View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

I do love doing the playful thing with my partner; flirting and teasing while we are not in a position for things to go any further.  I have that build up for a good part of the day...then, the love making is a little more intense and, quite frankly, fun (although, sex is like pizza...even when it's not that good, it's still kinda good and I'm glad to have it.  :P ).  It's nice when that happens, but it just doesn't happen very damn often.

I'm usually happy if foreplay is more than the guy grabbing a handful of my breasts and giving them a squeeze.  :huh:

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 02:57 PM

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View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

I do love doing the playful thing with my partner; flirting and teasing while we are not in a position for things to go any further.  I have that build up for a good part of the day...then, the love making is a little more intense and, quite frankly, fun (although, sex is like pizza...even when it's not that good, it's still kinda good and I'm glad to have it.  :P ).  It's nice when that happens, but it just doesn't happen very damn often.

I'm usually happy if foreplay is more than the guy grabbing a handful of my breasts and giving them a squeeze.  :huh:

Speaking as someone who has been on his own waaay too long I say that men should be more appreciative of foreplay. I sure as hell miss it.

Edited by The Analog Grownup, 08 May 2014 - 03:33 PM.


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Posted 08 May 2014 - 03:11 PM

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 08 May 2014 - 02:57 PM, said:

View PostRushchick10, on 08 May 2014 - 02:43 PM, said:

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

I do love doing the playful thing with my partner; flirting and teasing while we are not in a position for things to go any further.  I have that build up for a good part of the day...then, the love making is a little more intense and, quite frankly, fun (although, sex is like pizza...even when it's not that good, it's still kinda good and I'm glad to have it.  :P ).  It's nice when that happens, but it just doesn't happen very damn often.

I'm usually happy if foreplay is more than the guy grabbing a handful of my breasts and giving them a squeeze.  :huh:

Speaking as someone who has been on his own waaay to long I say that men should be more appreciative of foreplay. I sure as hell miss it.

Speaking as a woman who has been on her own for a while now, I say that women shouldn't be so quick to pass on intimacy with their partner.  It amazes me how I can talk to some men and they tell me that it has been months (or, in some cases, YEARS) since they had sex with their wife because she's just not interested.  I guess I'm a woman who never had that problem.  In fact, I am almost ALWAYS more aggressive in the sex department (as far as initiation, experimentation, etc) than my boyfriend/husband.

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 03:27 PM

View PostRushchick10, on 08 May 2014 - 03:11 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 08 May 2014 - 02:57 PM, said:

View PostRushchick10, on 08 May 2014 - 02:43 PM, said:

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

I do love doing the playful thing with my partner; flirting and teasing while we are not in a position for things to go any further.  I have that build up for a good part of the day...then, the love making is a little more intense and, quite frankly, fun (although, sex is like pizza...even when it's not that good, it's still kinda good and I'm glad to have it.  :P ).  It's nice when that happens, but it just doesn't happen very damn often.

I'm usually happy if foreplay is more than the guy grabbing a handful of my breasts and giving them a squeeze.  :huh:

Speaking as someone who has been on his own waaay to long I say that men should be more appreciative of foreplay. I sure as hell miss it.

Speaking as a woman who has been on her own for a while now, I say that women shouldn't be so quick to pass on intimacy with their partner.  It amazes me how I can talk to some men and they tell me that it has been months (or, in some cases, YEARS) since they had sex with their wife because she's just not interested.  I guess I'm a woman who never had that problem.  In fact, I am almost ALWAYS more aggressive in the sex department (as far as initiation, experimentation, etc) than my boyfriend/husband.

Wether it is sex or other ways of showing, I do feel it's important that couples make sure they each feel appreciated and wanted in a relationship. In whatever way they do it. :)

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 03:30 PM

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

Really?

Isn't there anybody out there teaching men the valuable lesson of foreplay?!

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 05:45 PM

View PostRushchick10, on 08 May 2014 - 02:43 PM, said:

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

I do love doing the playful thing with my partner; flirting and teasing while we are not in a position for things to go any further.  I have that build up for a good part of the day...then, the love making is a little more intense and, quite frankly, fun (although, sex is like pizza...even when it's not that good, it's still kinda good and I'm glad to have it.  :P ).  It's nice when that happens, but it just doesn't happen very damn often.

I'm usually happy if foreplay is more than the guy grabbing a handful of my breasts and giving them a squeeze.  :huh:

This is foreplay as I know it..

*peck peck peck peck peck*

*squeeze the nips and/or boobs* OMGTHATHURTSSOFREAKINGMUCHDON'TYOUKNOWTHEY'REATTACHED

Gets apology

Has penis waved in face.

Well, I know what I'm supposed to do with that... :sigh:

Edited by gangsterfurious, 08 May 2014 - 11:43 PM.


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Posted 08 May 2014 - 06:26 PM

I have the weirdest boner right now.

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 06:31 PM

Can you two go to a sex shop and each choose a porn flick and some toys? Do some shots, watch your flicks and see what happens??

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 06:50 PM

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Can you two go to a sex shop and each choose a porn flick and some toys? Do some shots, watch your flicks and see what happens??

I'll tell you what happens when my partner watches porn, I have a bulimia relapse.

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 07:04 PM

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 05:45 PM, said:

View PostRushchick10, on 08 May 2014 - 02:43 PM, said:

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

I do love doing the playful thing with my partner; flirting and teasing while we are not in a position for things to go any further.  I have that build up for a good part of the day...then, the love making is a little more intense and, quite frankly, fun (although, sex is like pizza...even when it's not that good, it's still kinda good and I'm glad to have it.  :P ).  It's nice when that happens, but it just doesn't happen very damn often.

I'm usually happy if foreplay is more than the guy grabbing a handful of my breasts and giving them a squeeze.  :huh:

This is foreplay as I know it..

*peck peck peck peck peck*

*squeeze the nips and/or boobs* OMGTHATHURTSSOFREAKINGMUCHDON'TYOUKNOWTHEIRATTACHED

Gets apology

Has penis waved in face.

Well, I know what I'm suppose to do with that... :sigh:

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 09:35 PM

View Postumoveme, on 08 May 2014 - 06:26 PM, said:

I have the weirdest boner right now.

You beat Sheldon to it, so he had to resort to that EPIC gif.  :P

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Posted 08 May 2014 - 10:07 PM

View PostRushchick10, on 08 May 2014 - 02:43 PM, said:

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

I do love doing the playful thing with my partner; flirting and teasing while we are not in a position for things to go any further.  I have that build up for a good part of the day...then, the love making is a little more intense and, quite frankly, fun (although, sex is like pizza...even when it's not that good, it's still kinda good and I'm glad to have it.  :P ).  It's nice when that happens, but it just doesn't happen very damn often.

I'm usually happy if foreplay is more than the guy grabbing a handful of my breasts and giving them a squeeze.  :huh:


This.


I also love that feeling when I turn to see my partner staring at me with the most ethereal look on his face.  It's been years since I've seen that...  :(  I miss it.  Sometimes  a sweet text can also just set the stage for an awesome home coming.  No pun intended.

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Posted 09 May 2014 - 12:02 AM

View PostAlsgalpal, on 08 May 2014 - 10:07 PM, said:

View PostRushchick10, on 08 May 2014 - 02:43 PM, said:

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

I do love doing the playful thing with my partner; flirting and teasing while we are not in a position for things to go any further.  I have that build up for a good part of the day...then, the love making is a little more intense and, quite frankly, fun (although, sex is like pizza...even when it's not that good, it's still kinda good and I'm glad to have it.  :P ).  It's nice when that happens, but it just doesn't happen very damn often.

I'm usually happy if foreplay is more than the guy grabbing a handful of my breasts and giving them a squeeze.  :huh:


This.


I also love that feeling when I turn to see my partner staring at me with the most ethereal look on his face.  It's been years since I've seen that...  :(  I miss it.  Sometimes  a sweet text can also just set the stage for an awesome home coming.  No pun intended.

To be wanted, desired and loved are some of our basic needs as human beings.  I crave it.  Hell, that's probably why I cave every time my ex comes around doing the "I miss you" bit.  My brain knows he just wants to get laid, but that stupid urge kicks in and I get lost in his desire for me, even if it's just for a couple of hours.  Silly and stupid...absolutely.  But, he keeps coming back to me, which in my primitive brain means that I am desirable.  That one instant can offset ten rejections.  I wish people would realize how powerful those feelings can be in a relationship.

Ok, I'm rambling.  Maybe it's time to get some rest.  It's been a busy week.

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Posted 09 May 2014 - 08:30 AM

View PostRushchick10, on 08 May 2014 - 09:35 PM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 08 May 2014 - 06:26 PM, said:

I have the weirdest boner right now.

You beat Sheldon to it, so he had to resort to that EPIC gif.  :P

While GF's post may (or may not) have elicited a certain biological reaction in me, I can assure you that there would be nothing "weird" about it.

:P

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Posted 09 May 2014 - 11:21 AM

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 05:45 PM, said:

View PostRushchick10, on 08 May 2014 - 02:43 PM, said:

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

I do love doing the playful thing with my partner; flirting and teasing while we are not in a position for things to go any further.  I have that build up for a good part of the day...then, the love making is a little more intense and, quite frankly, fun (although, sex is like pizza...even when it's not that good, it's still kinda good and I'm glad to have it.  :P ).  It's nice when that happens, but it just doesn't happen very damn often.

I'm usually happy if foreplay is more than the guy grabbing a handful of my breasts and giving them a squeeze.  :huh:

This is foreplay as I know it..

*peck peck peck peck peck*

*squeeze the nips and/or boobs* OMGTHATHURTSSOFREAKINGMUCHDON'TYOUKNOWTHEY'REATTACHED

Gets apology

Has penis waved in face.

Well, I know what I'm supposed to do with that... :sigh:

I think it's almost certain that most men would love a surprise blow-job, but waving it like a flagpole rarely works. Too bad some men haven't learned that lesson.

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Posted 09 May 2014 - 06:01 PM

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 09 May 2014 - 11:21 AM, said:

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 05:45 PM, said:

View PostRushchick10, on 08 May 2014 - 02:43 PM, said:

View Postgangsterfurious, on 08 May 2014 - 11:14 AM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P

No, I don't know.

I do love doing the playful thing with my partner; flirting and teasing while we are not in a position for things to go any further.  I have that build up for a good part of the day...then, the love making is a little more intense and, quite frankly, fun (although, sex is like pizza...even when it's not that good, it's still kinda good and I'm glad to have it.  :P ).  It's nice when that happens, but it just doesn't happen very damn often.

I'm usually happy if foreplay is more than the guy grabbing a handful of my breasts and giving them a squeeze.  :huh:

This is foreplay as I know it..

*peck peck peck peck peck*

*squeeze the nips and/or boobs* OMGTHATHURTSSOFREAKINGMUCHDON'TYOUKNOWTHEY'REATTACHED

Gets apology

Has penis waved in face.

Well, I know what I'm supposed to do with that... :sigh:

I think it's almost certain that most men would love a surprise blow-job, but waving it like a flagpole rarely works. Too bad some men haven't learned that lesson.

That's my cue to give up on life and start crying...

Okay enough pity party, sorry.

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Posted 09 May 2014 - 07:22 PM

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 07 May 2014 - 12:24 PM, said:

Good foreplay can be almost as good as sex itself. Especially the foreplay you start in the morning and keep doing along the day until ... yeah, you know :P
Spontanety is our middle name. ;)

Forplay has changed over the years. Now we are so technologically connected to each other. Sexting has replaced the usual forplay for a lot of couples and it still gets the oven preheated.

Thankfully we don't live in the age of distance without Skype. I don't know if my own relationship would have survived those times to be honest.





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