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I just looked up a crisis center hotline. The number is 1-800-273-8255. Give them a call. I'm sure they can help. It also helps just to have someone to listen.

I spent the first 16 years of my life emotionally co-dependent on my mother. It was DAMAGING. I'm just now realizing how terrible it was and I'm 31 now. If she treats you this way and doesn't make good decisions it is time for you to find a way to break free even though it's one of the most horrifying things you'll ever do.

I just saw this thread but others have given wonderful advice. I know it is difficult but the best thing you can do is to stay calm, think clearly, and don't do anything rash. Whenever you are feeling overwhelmed take a few seconds and do some deep breathing. Close your eyes, inhale slowly and deeply, and exhale slowly. Repeat a few times. This has a physical effect on the body and will help to calm you down. This is a tough situation but by no means is your life ruined! You are young and just getting started in life and have plenty of time to make things good. I understand being worried about your pets (mine are always on my mind in a crisis.) If you have no one that can house them when you move then check with local vets to see if there is a crisis-type place that will take them, or bring them in to the SPCA. They will be in better hands than if you just leave them in your house. Hugs and good thoughts to you. You will come out of this.

Your parent's used to scream at you about being useless? Maybe this is your time to make a clean break.

Actually, if it's deemed that she is a danger to herself then yes...there will be a protective custody order put in place. Those are VERY temporary and rarely last beyond 3-7 days. Of course, that varies from state to state, but that's the average. Take it from someone that, as a police officer for 5 years, put well over 100 people into protective custody. And, I was a cop in a relatively small town. I have had MANY of those people get in touch with me and thank me for taking action. Many consider it the best thing they ever had happen to them. It's not a bad thing if she really needs help. IR, if you don't want to talk to a hotline, message me and I will give you my phone number. I'm not a psychiatric professional, but I know the criteria that has to be met in most instances for people to be placed in protective custody. I will help you.

IR, I am sorry that you are going through this. First off, do not blame yourself for your mother getting pulled over and subsequently arrested. She's an adult and made the decision to drive a vehicle with an expired tag and no insurance on a suspended license. I also witnessed my mother being arrested once, but I was younger (about 15-16 if I remember correctly). She went on to commit even more crimes and did a stint in prison as well. She was a prescription drug addict and a habitual liar. None of those things were my fault, even though I was with her in the car when she was arrested the first time. I went on to have a wonderful son and a nearly 10 year career in law enforcement. Also, when I hit age 18 I was pretty much left on my own. Oh, my dad let me live in the house with him after he and my mother divorced, but I was responsible for everything else in my life. School, gas money, car repairs, food...everything. I managed. You can't let this pull you down. Find resources in your community to help you. Even if it's just emergency shelter or help with food. There are resources. And, call the hotline. Maybe the person you get on the line will be able to help you find those resources. However, I will say that, as a police officer, I have been sent to check on people who call suicide or crisis hotlines. Hell, I've even taken many of those people into protective custody and placed them (with the assistance of medical professionals, of course) into psychiatric facilities for short periods of time (most stays in those situations are limited to 3-7 days). Guess what...that's what those hotlines are there for! If you are seriously thinking that you are a danger to yourself then please call. As far as the animals, many humane societies offer temporary housing (through their shelter or fosters) for animals displaced in times of crisis. You've got this...make the call. If it saves your life, what's a few days in hospital to pull yourself together in the grand scheme of things? It might be the best thing you ever do for yourself. That's the worst that can happen. The best that can happen is that you get the help that you need to get through this tough situation. There is no shame in asking for help.

Please try to be calm - we're all here for you. Sending you lots of these:

Yes please call them. Take it from somebody that had to a long-long time ago.

Sorry to hear this. I looked at your profile and see you are 22. Such a young age to go through this but at least you're over 18 and not subject to the whims of the state. Similar thing happened to me at 17 (lost home and mom moved to over 55 community so I had to go). I foolishly felt the only recourse was military enlistment which is exactly what I did. I still regret doing that so my main suggestion is to try not to do anything rash. There are some options if you need help depending on what you need such as shelters, food assistance, etc. please keep checking in and let us know how you are doing.

Hang in there. I'm here too. What state r u in? There should be a hotline u can call. Please know I'm here to listen if u need anything.

Im here too...Your mom is in jail ? Were you aware of her behaviors? Im sure she is shaking about now too.You got us...please be strong.

IR, do you have any type of a crisis hot line in your area you can call? Try to calm down right now. I know it's hard to do, but try.

I'm here. I am at work though so I may not be able to get back to you right away. What the heck is happening? Don't you have any friends or family that can help you?

To quote Geddy from the book "Bass Heroes", "I put my Fender bass through a fuzztone -I can't remember what kind-and then into the board. It was distorted all to shit, so we added phasing, and ultimately put in everything but the kitchen sink. I had all that sound going through a volume pedal, so every time the monster was supposed to growl, I would lean on the volume pedal."

AFTK.....what an album. It's my favorite Rush album (with Hemispheres and Permanent Waves not far behind). It's such a great album! It has the perfect blend of classic Rush sound with a touch of sci fi and medieval sprinkled in, and it has a flow and vibe that no other Rush album has achieved. I only wish I could have been alive when it was released...would literally give up an arm to see a Rush concert in the seventies

This was something that also stood out in my listen today. Nobody can tell me (or convince me anyway) that CA or VT or anything halfway recent sounds as good as those "older" recordings. Whatever they were doing then, bravo and now... no thanks. The old sound was clear as a bell and every sound and instrument crystal clear and concise.... :codger:

Agree 100%. It's time to move on, make a life plan, and start today. Fear is the only thing holding anyone from starting a new life. Courage, determination, SUCCESS. :)

Your parent's used to scream at you about being useless? Maybe this is your time to make a clean break. Agreed. This may sound kind of silly but I remember hearing something once about God closing a door but opening a window. This could be one of those times where everything changes because it must and eventually your life will improve because of it......

Look, IR, I didn't want to sound harsh either, but it really is time, at the age of 22, to take charge of your own life. And please stop with the "what ifs" - they don't help a bit. If you choose to do so, you can put your life in the direction you want it to go in.

Not to sound harsh, but nothing will work out if you don't take some sort of action. I know I am a stranger, but I've dedicated my life to serving people...and most of those people have been complete strangers to me. My intentions are good. I was a highly decorated police officer and had more letters of appreciation in my personnel file than pretty much any other cop in my department.

No one puts u in a hospital or mental institution. But if u can't or won't call anyone, sit down and make a list of what is bothering u. It may help to have it on paper. Your cats and dog can go to a shelter where they can be put in a foster home until u get on your feet again. Take a deep breath and know u r loved.

Here hun, this is the number she posted.

I am afraid to call. If anyone heard me or saw me right now, they would place me in a mental facility. What about my cats and my Mom's dog? OMG I can't believe this! No hotlines do not place you in a mental facility. They are there to help you so that you don't end up in one. They are there to help you.

Please call the hotline and tell them what u told us. As someone who has tried suicide twice and went through rehab for a major drug problem I know about how crappy life can be. But u need to know it will get better. It really will. Can u maybe call the local sherrif office and find out where they took the car? Hang in there. I'm thinking of u.

No no no no no your life isn't ruined at 22 it's still getting started. Many of us here have survived similar events, trauma, etc.. This is just a small moment you need to deal with in the NOW. Okay so your step-sister is useless, get her out of the picture. I will tell you that sometimes people will just laugh as a reflex, it's normal, don't let it bother you. Take care of your health as much as you can, that is of the utmost importance for getting through this and will effect your mood and clarity. This isn't your fault, okay? Things happen and don't worry about your house. You will have other places to go, it's a material thing, let it go. I'm not telling you this to sound harsh. Just think about what your options are, what you can do, and how to get through this. You will have time to be sad later. Take a deep breath and organize your thoughts. I know (God don't I know) how hard it is, hard doesn't equal impossible okay?

My heart breaks for you. Please call the hotline above...

But enough of Howie. Back to the topic. A Farewell To Kings - Great title for their last concert tour.

The song has already been documented live since it's on the R30 DVD. Save that spot for something else from that time period that they haven't done in years like The Enemy Within or The Weapon.

:goodone: There's nothing more metal than the first few seconds of AFTK! :haz: It's classical guitar metal!! :guitar:

I took this pic the first time I saw Priest on the Screaming For Vengeance tour 1982. I was in the front row :haz:

Geddy is 30 years older than me and the first time I saw Rush I was probably in the best shape of my life. Not to say that I was in the greatest shape that I could be but I could do things like run a 5.5-6.0 pace on the treadmill all the way through Headlong Flight while singing. Before Rush shows I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do anything unhealthy, I chug water while I'm getting ready and have a healthy and light dinner. During the shows I've never had more than a couple of sips of beer from my husband's beer, and I drink water the whole time. I do this because if I didn't I wouldn't be able to keep up with the boys. Geddy is one of the fittest men I have ever been around, you wouldn't expect it because of his age, and maybe even his size, he's obviously healthy but not really muscular or anything like that but my God he kicks my butt, I'm the one trying to keep up with him, singing, dancing with whoever I'm with. He's so awesome to watch.

This thread makes me happy.

For me, the best Rush album of all time. Well, an equal alongside several other Rush albums I regard as equal, but when push comes to shove, AFTK is undoubtedly my favourite. I don't know why, but this album has a strong sense of adventure and a chivalrous atmosphere that creates visions of knights, dragons, space adventures and H.G. Wells-esque futuristic landscapes. The cover artwork is my favourite, and its just the perfect rock album. I adore it...I know many regard Hemispheres as the bands finest work, but that album is only half as good as AFTK, and for me that is still an 8/10 masterwork. But something about this album sticks with me...its just got an intoxicating atmosphere, wonderful lyrics, and some of the best production values of any album I have ever heard! Why does rock sound so much like plastic in the 21st century when it sounded like a dream in 1977?

Go somewhere where you wont be alone...even to a movie till you figure out what to do. Animal shelters will take your animals if absolutely necessary. I know thats hard to do tho. People will help if you open your arms. We all love you here !

Only you can change/help yourself. It may be the most difficult thing you do in your life but sometimes you just have to do it. Hang in there.

You can't bring your Dad back to life. You can't change your Mom. But you can and must help yourself.

I am afraid to call. If anyone heard me or saw me right now, they would place me in a mental facility. What about my cats and my Mom's dog? OMG I can't believe this! All right. I understand why you won't call. Then it is up to you to grab hold of yourself and calm yourself down. If you stay the way you are, you won't be able to think straight. It is not the end of the world for you, it only seems that way to you now.

Listen, IR, above all - don't do anything rash or foolish. PLEASE!!!!! Many here have been through things you are going through now and, hard as this may be for you to believe, I know there are some here who have been through worse. Call that crisis hotline. They may have some type of immediate help available for you. Maybe they can even send someone over to you and help you calm down. Your life is not ruined. It only seems that way to you now.

I'm not good at this but it hurts just to read the pain in your post. Thinking of you and hoping for a solution....

You want different alcohol percentages depending on what you are eating with the food. High alcohol accentuates spiciness and doesn't play well with spicy foods. It can also mellow out high fat foods, cutting through that fat/richness and sort of "evening" things out. High alcohol also gives the impression of sweetness, so it can work well with fruity foods. The problems with high alcohol wine is that it makes the wine feel very "heavy" and can easily overpower light and delicate foods. It also makes the wine appear more acidic and as such will not work well with dairy- or cream-based foods. Wow this is a first for me! Nobody has ever mentioned it to me before. That will be something else I'll have to start looking for. How do you like to chose your wines? What else do you look for? I'm starting to learn all this stuff as the result of the class I'm taking. I need to start drinking more to try it out! Here are some sites with good general info: http://www.winemag.com/wine-pairings/ http://parade.condenast.com/240100/allieandmeluncorked/7-simple-rules-for-pairing-food-wine/ http://www.foodandwine.com/articles/15-rules-for-great-wine-and-food-pairings

You want different alcohol percentages depending on what you are eating with the food. High alcohol accentuates spiciness and doesn't play well with spicy foods. It can also mellow out high fat foods, cutting through that fat/richness and sort of "evening" things out. High alcohol also gives the impression of sweetness, so it can work well with fruity foods. The problems with high alcohol wine is that it makes the wine feel very "heavy" and can easily overpower light and delicate foods. It also makes the wine appear more acidic and as such will not work well with dairy- or cream-based foods.

Getting back on topic, I don't ever remember hearing Rush, or anything from AFTK on FM radio in the Chicago area until PeW and TSOR... Yet when I did a survey for a sociology class in high school in the fall of 1979, Rush was third in popularity to Floyd (this was right around the time the Wall was released) and Zeppelin.

No thanks. I can think of tons of other songs (from earlier recordings) they never play that I would rather hear. This album was the beginning of the end for me so its not my favorite anyway. I would rather hear Territories, Marathon or Manhattan Project from that album.... :)

Geddy Lee, what's it like being you?

Wow!

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Rime Of The Ancient Mariner by Iron Maiden- it is ON. I now start every walk I take with this song, and pace myself to it. It kicks ass!!!!

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This is the very best of all advice for losing weight or just staying healthy.

That's where I found it. I found it on an R30 concert they did at Radio City Music Hall. Well. I honestly don't think Geddy could sing it anymore. He could still sing ten years ago, but his voice has dropped, for whatever reason, considerably. It keeps getting lower. Also, is it my imagination, or are Alex's guitar playing and Neil's drumming slower in beat than they used to be? Forgot to add that Geddy sang effortlessly back then (Exit...Stage Left). Not so today.