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    North America announcement!!!!

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    QUOTE (kbomb106 @ Nov 29 2010, 01:36 AM)
    Uh....Hershey, NJ? I think their webmaster needs to check a map.

    I'm bummed they're not doing anything northeast of NYC.

    To be completely honest, I was a little bummed when they announced the possibility of North American dates to be added on to the second leg. We can't afford to go, and if they announced something close to home, it would literally kill us to not be able to go...So knowing that the closest they will be is NYC or Maryland, and while I am very sorry for all of you who want to see them again and wanted them to come around to New England...for my own selfish reasons, I'm actually a little relieved. I saw them on the first leg twice, and I know that they will be on tour again for Clockwork Angels, so I can wait for that tour. I'd rather save up my money for that tour, and try and get better seats. Just my opinion.

    Autism

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    QUOTE (Fridge @ Nov 22 2010, 02:58 AM)
    QUOTE (LakesideMaiden @ Nov 22 2010, 07:51 AM)
    QUOTE (Fridge @ Nov 22 2010, 02:24 AM)
    QUOTE (LakesideMaiden @ Nov 22 2010, 04:04 AM)
    He singled out what I said to him with that followup about Asperger's, which to me seemed completely out of left-field...

    I think you are being too sensitive here.

     

    I myself have Aspergers and I actually appreciate people pointing out something that I have done "oddly" or "wrong".

     

    Sometimes people get upset or annoyed on our behalf when there is no real need, thouh I appreciate your motives. smile.gif

    Hon, I only got upset at the comment after the fact that even after agreeing with him (just not the way he went about it), he got upset with me for saying so, and then made a really random comment about maybe he had Asperger's. Yes, perhaps I was a little touchy about it, because my son was recently diagnosed, and I hate the thought of people being singled out because of a disability - but also because of what my husband is going through with his work right now (he's going to be going in for a neuro-psych eval to find out if he has it as well and it's just been misdiagnosed as ADHD all this time)...he's on the verge of being fired, and I'm under a lot of strain between the two of their situations, so when I get a comment like that, seemingly out of left field, not related to anything, it just pushed a button. I didn't go off on him in there. I said something relatively mild, left it at that, and came into this thread to talk to people here about it...I'm generally un-confrontational. I don't like getting in peoples faces, even cybernettically.

    I understand where you are coming from, and I appreciate you are under a fair bit of pressure, but from what I can see I don't think he meant any harm, and to be fair he couldn't know about your personal situation.

     

    I think how you are feeling is colouring your response in this instance, which is understandable...it is a lot to worry about after all...I hope it works out for you and your husband.

    Thanks hon smile.gif

    Autism

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    QUOTE (Fridge @ Nov 22 2010, 02:24 AM)
    QUOTE (LakesideMaiden @ Nov 22 2010, 04:04 AM)
    He singled out what I said to him with that followup about Asperger's, which to me seemed completely out of left-field...

    I think you are being too sensitive here.

     

    I myself have Aspergers and I actually appreciate people pointing out something that I have done "oddly" or "wrong".

     

    Sometimes people get upset or annoyed on our behalf when there is no real need, thouh I appreciate your motives. smile.gif

    Hon, I only got upset at the comment after the fact that even after agreeing with him (just not the way he went about it), he got upset with me for saying so, and then made a really random comment about maybe he had Asperger's. Yes, perhaps I was a little touchy about it, because my son was recently diagnosed, and I hate the thought of people being singled out because of a disability - but also because of what my husband is going through with his work right now (he's going to be going in for a neuro-psych eval to find out if he has it as well and it's just been misdiagnosed as ADHD all this time)...he's on the verge of being fired, and I'm under a lot of strain between the two of their situations, so when I get a comment like that, seemingly out of left field, not related to anything, it just pushed a button. I didn't go off on him in there. I said something relatively mild, left it at that, and came into this thread to talk to people here about it...I'm generally un-confrontational. I don't like getting in peoples faces, even cybernettically.

    Autism

    in Random Samples

    Posted

    QUOTE (Queen of Megadon @ Nov 21 2010, 10:42 PM)
    QUOTE (LakesideMaiden @ Nov 21 2010, 04:04 PM)
    Okay so this just really bothered me.  I realize that it was an offhand comment, self-deprecating towards the poster....but it bothered me nonetheless.  I was defending the person who had posted what I thought was a pretty good marketing idea for Anthem in this thread: http://www.therushforum.com/index.php?showtopic=61330, who had made some pretty blatant spelling and gramattical errors in his email to Anthem - and this person had called him out...so I just said he/she could have been a little kinder in their criticism and they retorted back with this: http://www.therushforum.com/index.php?showtopic=61330#
    QUOTE (savagegrace26 @ Nov 21 2010, 03:32 PM)
    I just said it needs to be rewritten. Considering what I wanted to say I don't see how that's impolite.

    Maybe I have Asperger Syndrome.

     

    So all I said in reply was "you really may want to watch what you say about that too. My son has Asperger's, and there are quite a few parents on this board who have children with Autism as well, and there are many, including myself, who could take offense to that comment, offhand or no.

     

    All I was saying was to explain yourself more when you give criticism. It's called constructive criticism."

     

    Anyway, I just wanted to vent a little bit...

    I dunno LSM..., here's my thoughts

     

     

    The "needs a rewrite" was blunt, but not necessarily cruel. Not sure I would have called the poster out.

     

    "Maybe I have Aspergers Syndrome."

     

    Should people be sensitive to disabilities? Sure. You were right to let the poster know that some people might be offended by this offhand remark. You handled it better than me new_thumbsupsmileyanim.gif as I would have just let it go...maybe thicker skin, maybe cause I've been at this for a really long time,(13 years since dx) and I'm just not ruffled as easily by these things.

     

    Not that anyone shouldnt be ruffled, or blow it off but I dont think it was meant to be offensive but it shouldnt be said in the first place but maybe they DO have Aspergers and YOU offended THEM.

     

    (the above runon is meant to show ONLY how I FEEL about how freaking complicated things get when I think too much about someone elses words. I have bigger fish to fry. But I didnt mean for it to be offensive and I didnt mean to hurt anyone's feelings....etc) smile.gif

    Well, I didn't single him out completely, I actually partially agreed with him, just said that he could have been a little kinder is all - this was my post:

    QUOTE (LakesideMaiden @ Nov 21 2010, 03:20 AM)

    This is a really good idea, and I think ghostworks has a good followup suggestion to the idea as well - and I do also agree with savagegrace26 (though, savage, you could have been a little kinder in your criticism) that you probably should have proofread for grammar and spelling errors before sending off that email.  I was trying to read it out loud to my husband and was having issues trying to get through some of your sentences in figuring out what you were trying to say.  Having said that, I think it is a great idea, and if it were released, I hope that we have the money to purchase it! trink39.gif smile.gif

     

    He singled out what I said to him with that followup about Asperger's, which to me seemed completely out of left-field...

     

    Autism

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    Posted · Edited by LakesideMaiden

    Okay so this just really bothered me. I realize that it was an offhand comment, self-deprecating towards the poster....but it bothered me nonetheless. I was defending the person who had posted what I thought was a pretty good marketing idea for Anthem in this thread: http://www.therushforum.com/index.php?showtopic=61330, who had made some pretty blatant spelling and gramattical errors in his email to Anthem - and this person had called him out...so I just said he/she could have been a little kinder in their criticism and they retorted back with this: http://www.therushforum.com/index.php?showtopic=61330#

    QUOTE (savagegrace26 @ Nov 21 2010, 03:32 PM)
    I just said it needs to be rewritten. Considering what I wanted to say I don't see how that's impolite.

    Maybe I have Asperger Syndrome.

     

    So all I said in reply was "you really may want to watch what you say about that too. My son has Asperger's, and there are quite a few parents on this board who have children with Autism as well, and there are many, including myself, who could take offense to that comment, offhand or no.

     

    All I was saying was to explain yourself more when you give criticism. It's called constructive criticism."

     

    Anyway, I just wanted to vent a little bit...

    Autism

    in Random Samples

    Posted

    QUOTE (Janie @ Nov 16 2010, 04:56 PM)
    Chances are good I'll be chiming in on this thread a lot, soon. Some of you may remember that my little Aedan was first evaluated for Autism when he was about 2 1/2 (real close to his third birthday). He was borderline and I was told he should be re-tested. Long story short, I've known something has been up with my little guy for many years now. I'm leaning more towards Asperger's which I understand is being classified as, "high-functioning" autistic. His "red flags" are pretty blaring. I had a two-hour IEP report meeting with his school (he attends a special needs pre-school) yesterday and it is really apparent that they all see screaming "red flags" and I see the same at home. So... hopefully he'll be re-evaluated ASAP.

    Oddly, I'm not upset about this. I think because I've known for so long now that there was something up with my little guy. He has a number of issues so I think that has hindered a previous diagnosis. He was born with extreme low muscle tone, severe speech apraxia and mild motor apraxia. He has been seeing therapists (physical, occupational and speech) since he was three months old. Not like any of this is new too me. I figure, let's just do what needs to be done so we can get going on any help that he needs.

    That really is such a great attitude to take. Big hugs honey, we're all here for you - we've got a great little support group going here, for all the parents of kiddos on all ranges of the spectrum, and K is right, it certainly is no death knell, and early intervention makes such a big difference wub.gif heart.gif

    What pissed you off today? v.2

    in Random Samples

    Posted

    The managers telling us last minute that we have a corporate visit tomorrow and we have to make the front end spotless - with the staff we have on hand rage.gif I'm getting sick of dealing with BS. I really hope I can find a new job soon, cause I'm getting really tired of working for Walmart...

    Autism

    in Random Samples

    Posted

    QUOTE (GhostGirl @ Nov 7 2010, 09:44 AM)
    Stephen has had some sort of intestinal...issue...since Friday morning. I think it's because he has a bad cold, and all the drainage.

    But this certainly makes having a non-potty trained child a challenge. I am exhausted.

    Every time I think it's over...then it happens again. It feels like it's never going to end.

    Luckily he's eating and sleeping and acting like he feels absolutely fine, but I'm SO TIRED of the constant changing of clothes.

    Ugh changing clothes, changing sheets, doing laundry at all hours of the night. I know how that goes, hon hug2.gif Hopefully he'll get better soon, hon heart.gif hug2.gif

    What made your day today? v.2

    in Random Samples

    Posted

    Four things made my day today

     

    1) Hearing my little boy laugh at something I was doing to make him laugh wub.gif heart.gif

     

    2) Got to spend time with both my boys all day

     

    3) Saturday. Didn't have to work... *YES*

     

    4) My special treat Dunkin's Coffee. Half Coffee and Espresso, the rest Hot Chocolate with a bit of cream and sugar and chocolate syrup.

    Autism

    in Random Samples

    Posted · Edited by LakesideMaiden

    QUOTE (ridertoo98 @ Nov 6 2010, 07:02 AM)
    LSM, what you posted a few ago was some very sad stuff.  hug2.gif to you and the little ones.

    Thanks hon hug2.gif That was actually about my husband, Dave, who is going for a neuro-psych evaluation to determine if he might have Asperger's Syndrome. Our son, Niall, was diagnosed with Autism in September.

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