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Just random musings from an idle mind.... What, to you, makes a kiss great/perfect? I mean, it's easy to list things that make a kiss bad, like bad breath, too much saliva, or a dead fish tongue that just sort of flops into your mouth and lies there like a big wet....blob. Of course there are many, many contexts in play as well. Like first date vs. booty call, for example. For me, soft, sensitive lips are a must, to name one thing. There needs to be lip action and movement, not just pressing them against mine. I'm sure I'll think of some other things. Edit: I did think of something else. I like it when the other person lightly traces the outline of my lips with just the tip of his tongue between kisses. I also love soft little kisses on the neck. Anyone else? I know this is in NWW, but I'd love to know the guys' perspective as well.

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A really excellent double workout. I'll be sore as hell tomorrow, but it felt great!

Lexapro will kill off anyone's sex drive. Trust me; it's one reason I was able to endure the dry spell I had. But if you happen to meet someone who really lights you up, well, then.....no problemo! (Have made a recent-ish switch to Effexor. It doesn't banjax the sex drive like Lexapro does. Lexapro and its cousin Celexa also make it difficult to erm, cross the finish line, if you get my drift).

I was at my mom's house recently helping her to clean out That Closet - you know, the one with stuff that no one knows what to do with. We found my rubber skirt that I purchased 20 years ago. I was going through a slightly snotty rebellious phase at the time, and wore that skirt with Doc Martens and an old ripped Sex Pistols sweatshirt to Christmas dinner at my dad's, along with a glue-on nose stud.

ER stories are the best. I had a teacher in high school who's brother was an ER doctor. He told us a story about a young woman who's room mate and boyfriend went out for an evening at the theater. The woman assumed she would have the apartment to herself, so she started masturbating with a large cucumber. Well, her room mate forgot her tickets and walked in on her riding the cucumber, and in the panic, her muscles locked in on the vegetable, and the cucumber could not be removed. They took her to the ER, and the doctor examined her. Since she was quite attractive, the doctor asked his buddy to examine her for a "second opinion". ;) His buddy suggested giving her a muscle relaxer and then they could all have a salad. :LMAO: I read books with ER stories on occasion. One had a tale of a Very, Very Large Person who came in for treatment of something or other, and in the course of the examination, as they were looking through the rolls of fat, they found the TV remote. One of my coworkers used to be an EMT. He has a ton of stories about obese people they picked up. Frequently said obese patients would have all sorts of goodies hidden in the fat rolls - spare change, Dorito crumbs.... all sorts of crap. And yes, he said the hygiene was the worst, because when you're that grossly overweight it's pretty much physically impossible to wipe your ass properly. Here's the link to the ER forum. http://forums.studentdoctor.net/threads/things-i-learn-from-my-patients.257985/ Somewhere in that thread is an excerpt about a patient with an ant colony living in his fat rolls.

Holy Crap! I hope you're never on the bottom. There's a forum for ER staff I read on occasion, just for the laughs and because I am continually amazed at the stupidity and weirdness our species is capable of. Anyway, someone posted about treating a 300+ lb woman who was pregnant. I don't remember all of the specific details or how the doctor found out this horrifying bit of information, but it turns out that Gargantuan Woman had her sister hold up her fat rolls so her (Gargantuan Woman's) husband could access the appropriate entrance for impregnation. :scared: :scared: :scared:

A museum? Possibly, but it would only appeal to a rather minimal number of people. And once they'd made that trek, I can't envision it attracting enough visitors to remain viable. If I had unlimited funds, it'd be cool to buy it and renovate it into some sort of vacation home. I'd leave as much of what it once was intact.

Try playing this in front of your cat/dog. It's that frequency some malls/retailers use to deter teenagers from loitering in groups. My dogs ran.... I couldn't hear it.

My 2 dogs don't watch TV, but they do go berserk if some character knocks on the door or rings a doorbell. What's funny is that I think our doorbell at home has been used maybe twice since we've had the dogs. Most people knock. So why the association? My shepherd cross, Simon, will alert before my mobile rings or someone texts me. He'll suddenly cock his head, prick his ears and stare at the phone. Sure enough, it goes off a fraction of a second later!

Not normal at all, especially when it's the male half who loses interest. Especially that early in the marriage. However, it's not uncommon for post-menopausal women to lose interest. There are fixes for that, though. Current sort-of SO is in his 60's (yeah, I know, but he is fit and healthy and I honestly would have guessed much younger) and is the most passionate person I've encountered in quite some time.

:( Sucks. I can. July 29 of 13'. Lovely... :sigh: What? Didn't you say you were married? (And you can tell that I have never been married by asking that question, right?) Yes and yes... That has been my problem precisely. Seriously - it ceased after the honeymoon 12 years ago. Not my choice, either.

Thanks for posting! I like the way the writer worked some Rush lyrics into the piece. Kinda geeky but kinda clever and cool at the same time! I could tell at the Atlanta show that Alex was feeling some pain. He didn't goof off with the audience as much, and sometimes you'd see him wince a little. And he was so super intensely focused. Did not miss a note, though - he slayed every solo! I have tremendous respect for him for enduring.

I really hate people who use the last of the toilet paper and don't replace the roll!

Aren't you married? Oh, dumb question. I am. Well, separated. Married 12 years. You do that math! Scary, ain't it?

I went without for over 12 years. No, that's not a typo. But I will say that what I'm getting now is MORE than making up for it!

Janie's has to be my favorite. I also covet Mike/Rush Revisited's MP avatar. Dibs if he ever decides to give it up!

The answer, as of today, would be a resounding NO! For both of us. Exhilarated and fabulous almost covers it. The only bummer was that it was spontaneous, not planned, so we couldn't spend the night together as has happened the two previous occasions. We'd worked out together (after not seeing each other for over a week) and ended up making a mad dash for someplace a bit more, er, private. But we were both all :D after.

Who here goes commando on a regular basis? **raises hand**. I used to think it would be weird and uncomfortable, but in fact found for me that it's just the opposite. Especially in summer - the less clothing I have on, the more comfortable I am. Pretty much the only time I'm not commando is if I'm wearing a skirt or if it's shark week.

Let me know if you need any help with that! :D Amen... :cheers: Well, the "dry spell" is over. I should clarify that. But it's still been too long for someone making up for as much lost time as me.

But seriously, I get where you're coming from. Sex is, well, kind of "athletic" in a way. You engage a lot of muscles. And if you are unhappy about how you look, that's going to make you self-conscious and interfere with your enjoyment. I WOULD start lifting weights some. Nothing strenuous - maybe try circuit training at first. Include 3-4 days of some light cardiovascular activity. Make it something you enjoy, like brisk walks with your wife. Of course changing your eating habits is the hardest part (it is for many people, anyway). Small steps. Don't try to drastically overhaul your entire diet all at once or you'll feel horribly deprived, frustrated, and defeated. Good luck! I don't know how old you are, but I am 47 and in the best shape of my life. Now if I could just get laid.....

I don't remember, it's been so goddam long since I had any. However, that may change soon. I'll let you know. ;)

I take one or two Benadryl on those nights. As long as I can sleep for four hours afterwards I'm fine the next day. Oh god, Benadryl charges my batteries! No kidding - when I've taken it I literally cannot stop moving.

I don't work nights, but I feel that way about sometimes when I start falling asleep at 10:00 or 10:30 at night or something. I normally get up at 4:45 every morning, so by the time 10:30 rolls around and I'm starting to doze off, yeah, it's been an 18-hour day. But I still get upset sometimes and feel old, because I used to have more energy than that. I say that most of the time I still feel like I'm about 25, because of the energy I do normally have. But by 11:00 at night... The ironic thing about this post is that I've just come off spending nearly an entire 24 hours in bed. Haha...but I'm doing a bit better now. No kidding. I used to thrive on 4-5 hours of sleep a night. Now I need at least 7. Sometimes I'll even take an afternoon nap on the weekends! 24 hours in bed isn't a bad thing, depending on the activity. ;) Wow. Although there certainly have been times when I've got away with less sleep (and was often sick as a result) I am an 8-9 hours a night person. I can get away with a couple days of less (6-7 hours) sleep, but as a rule I need at least 8 hours a night to feel good the next day. What's frustrating is I thought people needed less sleep as they got older, but that doesn't seem to be happening to me. It would be great if I didn't have to sleep as much. I rarely sleep 8 hours at a time, If I do its from a long fishing trip after getting home. I am always tossing and turning. I don't need much sleep at one time. A few hours here and there. Hate being in bed for long periods of time. I would sell my soul to get a full 8 hrs of uninterrupted sleep. Alas, my bladder, my brain that never shuts off, and noise from the family prevent me from getting it...... :doh: Occasionally I will take a Restoril (prescription sleeping pill, sort of like Valium). I like it because a - it works, b - it doesn't make the user do weird shit like raid the fridge or go for a drive while still asleep, and c - as long as I take it when I know I'll be getting at least 8 hours of sleep, it doesn't make me groggy the next day. It's not something I can just take at 2am because I've been unable to fall asleep, though. I use it only on those nights when I can tell I am way too amped up to fall asleep any time soon.