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A "guy's girl" is a girl who gets along very well with men, often more so than with women. Since Rush is thought of as a "guy's band" who don't have that many female fans I'm wondering if the females here think of themselves as guy's girls versus girly girls? I know I am definitely a guy's girl, and have been all my life. Sure, I wear dresses and makeup sometimes, but I also have male friends, ride motorcycles, listen to a lot of "guy music", and try to steer clear of fashion magazines and celebrity anything.
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Well you pretty much summed me up. I am a guys girl 100%!! I have had guy friends forever but can't keep a girl as a friend but for several months. My husband is the best thing I've ever had. Been married 21 years in May. He introduced me to Rush. The best band ever!
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Very interesting! I definitely lean to the guy's girl side, and have forever. My dad had three girls, no sons, and I was the one he tended to do the fishing, baseball, and car stuff with (not that that's necessarily guy stuff always but it pretty much was in the 60's). I had to learn to adapt though- my one daughter was very girly when she was little and to support her true interests (rather than sex categorizing) we had to become interested in hairstyles, dresses, and ballet! The funny thing was by the time she was in high school, she broadened; most of her friends were boys and she went on to become a math and physics major at a school where the majority of those students were men :)
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I'm both.

 

I relate more to men, but I think I'm girly.

I have girl friends - but my best friend is Digi :wub:

I like "pretty"

I like doing my hair, and makeup (but I'm not afraid to go without & I still feel good without them "done.")

I enjoy getting my nails done - but haven't had the luxury of the extra cash for a few years to spend 40-50/ month on them. I'd rather save for a vacation or concert.

I also like loud music, and concerts and beer and partying.

I very much enjoy being told I'm pretty - and since Digi tells me everyday - I consider myself spoiled.

 

*edit for grammar :doh:

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Ohh, that is SO me. I do have a couple of good girlfriends, but for the most part am much more comfortable with men. I have a raunchy sense of humor, don't give a shit about fashion or purses or shoes, and have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in.
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I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.

Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

 

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?

2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?

3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast

 

Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

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I don't really know. I get along with anyone who's nice to me. I'm awkward and shy and I don't have the best social skills so I'm not the flirty type.
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I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.

Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

 

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?

2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?

3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast

 

Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

 

Yes, you are definitely a "guy's girl."

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I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.

Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

 

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?

2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?

3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast

 

Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

 

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Because everyone is unique and we all have a certain type of person we can relate to.

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I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.

Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

 

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?

2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?

3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast

 

Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

 

Yes, you are definitely a "guy's girl."

Takes one to know one!

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I'm both.

 

I relate more to men, but I think I'm girly.

I have girl friends - but my best friend is Digi :wub:

I like "pretty"

I like doing my hair, and makeup (but I'm not afraid to go without & I still feel good without them "done.")

I enjoy getting my nails done - but haven't had the luxury of the extra cash for a few years to spend 40-50/ month on them. I'd rather save for a vacation or concert.

I also like loud music, and concerts and beer and partying.

I very much enjoy being told I'm pretty - and since Digi tells me everyday - I consider myself spoiled.

 

*edit for grammar :doh:

Can relate.

 

I've always thought of myself as a girlish tomboy. I can throw a football but I'm going to have on the prettiest dress while doing it.

 

I find it easier sometimes to talk to men because I feel more relaxed. Having said that, I don't have many male friends I see on a regular basis. I got bitches coming out my ears. It has taken me a while but I think I do a pretty good job of finding the women who are more like me. I definitely like the girlfriends I have right now.

 

Just me, but it's not easy to have male friends as friends. There's usually a proposition that occurs shortly thereafter.

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I'm both.

 

I relate more to men, but I think I'm girly.

I have girl friends - but my best friend is Digi :wub:

I like "pretty"

I like doing my hair, and makeup (but I'm not afraid to go without & I still feel good without them "done.")

I enjoy getting my nails done - but haven't had the luxury of the extra cash for a few years to spend 40-50/ month on them. I'd rather save for a vacation or concert.

I also like loud music, and concerts and beer and partying.

I very much enjoy being told I'm pretty - and since Digi tells me everyday - I consider myself spoiled.

 

*edit for grammar :doh:

Can relate.

 

I've always thought of myself as a girlish tomboy. I can throw a football but I'm going to have on the prettiest dress while doing it.

 

I find it easier sometimes to talk to men because I feel more relaxed. Having said that, I don't have many male friends I see on a regular basis. I got bitches coming out my ears. It has taken me a while but I think I do a pretty good job of finding the women who are more like me. I definitely like the girlfriends I have right now.

 

Just me, but it's not easy to have male friends as friends. There's usually a proposition that occurs shortly thereafter.

 

That's why the best male friends are gay male friends.

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I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.

Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

 

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?

2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?

3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast

 

Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

 

I wish I could answer your whys, but I don't know why some girls act that way. In my observations it seems to have dropped off with age, but that might also be a reflection of the female people I have in my life right now. I know when I was younger, in high school and the years after, the girls I met were manipulative, using their looks and charm to take advantage of other people and I did not want to have any part of that. I saw too many girls who would target what they wanted (popularity, a certain boy, physical objects) and wouldn't let anything stand in their way as they used everything at their disposal to get that thing. I also don't like the educational divide that happens between girls and boys, and the fact that it is assumed girls don't want to learn/will have difficulty learning math and science, so instead they are coddled and helped to avoid those subjects. This translates, in part, to some girls not liking the sciences and thinking less of the ones who do.

 

With guys it just seems like so much of this crap doesn't exist. As another poster mentioned, with guys you do run the risk of them wanting to change a platonic friendship into a romantic relationship (and to be fair, many of the guys I've slept with started off as friends) but that is easier to deal with, and it's one blatant thing that doesn't revolve around manipulation. And it doesn't always exists, especially if one or both of you are already involved in other relationships.

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I'm both.

 

I relate more to men, but I think I'm girly.

I have girl friends - but my best friend is Digi :wub:

I like "pretty"

I like doing my hair, and makeup (but I'm not afraid to go without & I still feel good without them "done.")

I enjoy getting my nails done - but haven't had the luxury of the extra cash for a few years to spend 40-50/ month on them. I'd rather save for a vacation or concert.

I also like loud music, and concerts and beer and partying.

I very much enjoy being told I'm pretty - and since Digi tells me everyday - I consider myself spoiled.

 

*edit for grammar :doh:

Can relate.

 

I've always thought of myself as a girlish tomboy. I can throw a football but I'm going to have on the prettiest dress while doing it.

 

I find it easier sometimes to talk to men because I feel more relaxed. Having said that, I don't have many male friends I see on a regular basis. I got bitches coming out my ears. It has taken me a while but I think I do a pretty good job of finding the women who are more like me. I definitely like the girlfriends I have right now.

 

Just me, but it's not easy to have male friends as friends. There's usually a proposition that occurs shortly thereafter.

 

That's why the best male friends are gay male friends.

It's kept Dr Sheldon Cooper happy

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I also don't like the educational divide that happens between girls and boys, and the fact that it is assumed girls don't want to learn/will have difficulty learning math and science, so instead they are coddled and helped to avoid those subjects. This translates, in part, to some girls not liking the sciences and thinking less of the ones who do.

 

With guys it just seems like so much of this crap doesn't exist.

 

I disagree here. It totally happens to guys on the other end. If a guy can't cook or clean or know how to grocery shop or change a diaper they'll get the same type of coddling.

 

I'm guilty of two of those. o.O

 

Interesting stuff btw.

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I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.

Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

 

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?

2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?

3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast

 

Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

 

I wish I could answer your whys, but I don't know why some girls act that way. In my observations it seems to have dropped off with age, but that might also be a reflection of the female people I have in my life right now. I know when I was younger, in high school and the years after, the girls I met were manipulative, using their looks and charm to take advantage of other people and I did not want to have any part of that. I saw too many girls who would target what they wanted (popularity, a certain boy, physical objects) and wouldn't let anything stand in their way as they used everything at their disposal to get that thing. I also don't like the educational divide that happens between girls and boys, and the fact that it is assumed girls don't want to learn/will have difficulty learning math and science, so instead they are coddled and helped to avoid those subjects. This translates, in part, to some girls not liking the sciences and thinking less of the ones who do.

 

With guys it just seems like so much of this crap doesn't exist. As another poster mentioned, with guys you do run the risk of them wanting to change a platonic friendship into a romantic relationship (and to be fair, many of the guys I've slept with started off as friends) but that is easier to deal with, and it's one blatant thing that doesn't revolve around manipulation. And it doesn't always exists, especially if one or both of you are already involved in other relationships.

 

The competitiveness thing gets a LITTLE better with age, but the balance shifts as well. I've had a few female supervisors, most of whom I did not get on well with AT ALL. The two I have clicked with are close to my own age, secure and confident, and we actually became friends of a sort. The ones with whom I clashed were around 15 years older and tended to have a snippy, supercilious attitude. One in particular stands out - she was a horrid drama queen (used to call in sick when she'd had a fight with her boyfriend, and she was in her 40's) in addition to just generally having a bad attitude towards anyone female and younger. Insecurity and jealousy.

 

One of my very best friends is my ex-fiance. We were great friends prior to dating, and once a few years had passed after the broken engagement, we are back to that place. Now, does he want to sleep with me? Yep, and he freely admits it! But he is also happy with just being platonic and it's not weird at all.

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I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.

Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

 

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?

2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?

3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast

 

Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

 

I wish I could answer your whys, but I don't know why some girls act that way. In my observations it seems to have dropped off with age, but that might also be a reflection of the female people I have in my life right now. I know when I was younger, in high school and the years after, the girls I met were manipulative, using their looks and charm to take advantage of other people and I did not want to have any part of that. I saw too many girls who would target what they wanted (popularity, a certain boy, physical objects) and wouldn't let anything stand in their way as they used everything at their disposal to get that thing. I also don't like the educational divide that happens between girls and boys, and the fact that it is assumed girls don't want to learn/will have difficulty learning math and science, so instead they are coddled and helped to avoid those subjects. This translates, in part, to some girls not liking the sciences and thinking less of the ones who do.

 

With guys it just seems like so much of this crap doesn't exist. As another poster mentioned, with guys you do run the risk of them wanting to change a platonic friendship into a romantic relationship (and to be fair, many of the guys I've slept with started off as friends) but that is easier to deal with, and it's one blatant thing that doesn't revolve around manipulation. And it doesn't always exists, especially if one or both of you are already involved in other relationships.

 

The competitiveness thing gets a LITTLE better with age, but the balance shifts as well. I've had a few female supervisors, most of whom I did not get on well with AT ALL. The two I have clicked with are close to my own age, secure and confident, and we actually became friends of a sort. The ones with whom I clashed were around 15 years older and tended to have a snippy, supercilious attitude. One in particular stands out - she was a horrid drama queen (used to call in sick when she'd had a fight with her boyfriend, and she was in her 40's) in addition to just generally having a bad attitude towards anyone female and younger. Insecurity and jealousy.

 

One of my very best friends is my ex-fiance. We were great friends prior to dating, and once a few years had passed after the broken engagement, we are back to that place. Now, does he want to sleep with me? Yep, and he freely admits it! But he is also happy with just being platonic and it's not weird at all.

 

I've always felt that women in power feel like they have to act like men to keep control of the people beneath them in the workplace. My mother told me that when she was the head of the office at the railroad where she worked, that men would only respect her if she acted like "one of the guys." However there's a distance that has to maintained between boss and employee. Sometimes it's hard to define what that is.

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I'm both.

 

I relate more to men, but I think I'm girly.

I have girl friends - but my best friend is Digi :wub:

I like "pretty"

I like doing my hair, and makeup (but I'm not afraid to go without & I still feel good without them "done.")

I enjoy getting my nails done - but haven't had the luxury of the extra cash for a few years to spend 40-50/ month on them. I'd rather save for a vacation or concert.

I also like loud music, and concerts and beer and partying.

I very much enjoy being told I'm pretty - and since Digi tells me everyday - I consider myself spoiled.

 

*edit for grammar :doh:

 

Sundog is the perfect amount of girly for me.

 

I tell her she is beautiful everyday because it happens to be the truth. If you have good, happy, positive and beautiful people in your life you should tell them as ofter as psooible. There's enough negativity coming in from everyhwere else.

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