Ladies, my husband's friend is really starting to scare me a little.

[hobo73]

What is it with men thinking they can just have their way with us? Thinking that it's OK to go after MARRIED women that have made vows to their husbands? Hobo I know that you know from Facebook what is currently going on in my life with the clown from church/work. I'm so disgusted and stressed out this morning that I am literally sick to my stomach.

 

sh*t! that's YOU??? (forgive me, there are so many Rush fans on my facebook page I can't match faces with screen names all the time lol)- how are things??? has he backed off a little???

THAT is terrifying. I'm so sorry hon. *hugs*

 

Well yesterday I had a nagging suspicion I should check Phil's facebook page. I took him off my friends list once all this went down, but it was a feeling I just couldn't ignore after a while.

The usual updates I expected- oh, what I thought were REAL friends turned out to be fake, they ditched me, blah blah blah.

But he decided to use a picture of MY daughter as HIS profile picture.

 

No.

 

I messaged him immediately and told him Jeff & I BOTH ask that he please take the photo down, and that this was the only time we were going to be nice about it.

He changed the picture right away, but I'm still leery. -__-

 

OH, yes. And let's just say my husband saw with his own 2 eyes, the proof that Phil is now a crack smoker.

 

I can't even explain how creepy I think it is, that he has a picture of your daughter as his profile picture. That's really close to having a can of whoop-ass open upon you!

 

Oh I gave him his one "polite" warning- once anyone brings my kid into things, I get all kinds of angry. I give them a chance to correct things, but I'll walk to his damn house myself if he uses her picture in any way or brings her up in any way again.

It's about a 2 hour walk, but I can do it. =D

 

see? you're one of the calmest dudes I talk to and even YOU get it!! lol

[gangsterfurious]

hey, gangster! maybe you should flatten the guys' nose so it swells up and gets "as big as a Jews' nose". (God please let you be the one who has issues with your ex study partner, or else I look like a racist & nobody knows what I mean hahaha)

 

Hahaha that's the guy!

[gangsterfurious]

What is it with men thinking they can just have their way with us? Thinking that it's OK to go after MARRIED women that have made vows to their husbands? Hobo I know that you know from Facebook what is currently going on in my life with the clown from church/work. I'm so disgusted and stressed out this morning that I am literally sick to my stomach.

 

sh*t! that's YOU??? (forgive me, there are so many Rush fans on my facebook page I can't match faces with screen names all the time lol)- how are things??? has he backed off a little???

THAT is terrifying. I'm so sorry hon. *hugs*

 

Well yesterday I had a nagging suspicion I should check Phil's facebook page. I took him off my friends list once all this went down, but it was a feeling I just couldn't ignore after a while.

The usual updates I expected- oh, what I thought were REAL friends turned out to be fake, they ditched me, blah blah blah.

But he decided to use a picture of MY daughter as HIS profile picture.

 

No.

 

I messaged him immediately and told him Jeff & I BOTH ask that he please take the photo down, and that this was the only time we were going to be nice about it.

He changed the picture right away, but I'm still leery. -__-

 

OH, yes. And let's just say my husband saw with his own 2 eyes, the proof that Phil is now a crack smoker.

 

I can't even explain how creepy I think it is, that he has a picture of your daughter as his profile picture. That's really close to having a can of whoop-ass open upon you!

 

Yeah that is BEYOND creepy. OMG I'd lose my sh*t so fast if something like that happened to me.

[The Analog Grownup]

I wish some ladies would be more clear about their relationship status, when it's quite obvious that you trying to score. But, on the other side we guys shall back off immediately, if we find out she is with someone else. There is nothing else to do than respect the choice she has made, and I don't think it's fair to come between two people who love each other.

 

I know someone who once were attempted rape, and I still want to kill him even though it's a long time ago. :bang bang:

[hobo73]

I wish some ladies would be more clear about their relationship status, when it's quite obvious that you trying to score. But, on the other side we guys shall back off immediately, if we find out she is with someone else. There is nothing else to do than respect the choice she has made, and I don't think it's fair to come between two people who love each other.

 

I know someone who once were attempted rape, and I still want to kill him even though it's a long time ago. :bang bang:

 

Oh yeah, I know women who think it's fun to never bring up their boyfriend/husband and get all flirty, then spring their relationship on a guy when things get heated. Good idea to just let it be known before things get outta hand!

Thankfully, guys I keep in my life aren't aggressive (as far as I have known them, anyway lol)- once they are, like Phil has proven, they are gone. Done. Out.

You have a good head on your shoulders :)

 

UGHH......wtf!! yeah it may be a long time ago, but it's more than okay to feel the urge to give him a black eye or 2 ;)

That's not a man.

 

LOL gangster!! glad I got the right person XD

that's really scary. if he ever gets too close to you, may I suggest the "crazy b*tch" tactic: scream as loud as you can "I'LL RIP YER F*CKING NUTS OFF YOUR BODY WITH MY BARE HANDS!!!!"

---at least it worked for me a few times? lol

[Mika]

Just read through the updates in this. Hobo, that's really creepy about Phil using your daughter's picture.... It's kind of amazing, really, how someone in his postion (becoming estranged from you guys) can think that it would be ok to do. And for being seen smoking crack... ugh. :( I hope ways keep getting parted for you guys. Doesn't sound like someone that should be around your little girl! :(

 

And Gangster - I'm not in the loop as to what's happening, but hugs for you as the gist doesn't sound very good. :( I hope things work out ok for you.

 

And Analog - I like what you have to say! :)

[Digital Man]

What is it with men thinking they can just have their way with us? Thinking that it's OK to go after MARRIED women that have made vows to their husbands? Hobo I know that you know from Facebook what is currently going on in my life with the clown from church/work. I'm so disgusted and stressed out this morning that I am literally sick to my stomach.

 

I have no idea why men think it is okay to do this. Ugh.

 

True story- once at a Richard Thompson show, a guy who was sitting with us (we didn't know him but it was a sit down show and you had to share tables) actually put his hand on my knee. Was pretty obvious before this happened that I was with my husband. This guy was on the other side of me. I took the guys hand and squeezed it as hard as I could. Should have seen the look on his face- I was seriously pissed. He did this during the set and almost let out a scream. Maybe he thought I wouldn't do anything because it was an acoustic set and everyone was quiet. Thought he had me. Joke was on him. He is lucky I didn't squeeze anything else. Jerk.

 

I hope no tolerance for people who purposely go out of their way to flirt with/make a play for others when they know they are married/taken. There are lots of single people out there. Really.

 

Well I can't agree with the last part since I've been known to throw myself at Geddy and I know we are both married, haha. (free pass! free pass!)

 

Anyway yeah, I don't even know where to begin with my story but I have a doozy much like Hobo's. I'm so sick and tired of these aggressive men that don't know when to keep their hands off!

 

If some guy puts his hands on you after you have asked him to stop he deserves a knee to the groin. A guy should never put his hands on a girl without some kind of permission of acknowledgement that it is ok. If it's a work situation maybe a physical reaction is a bad idea, but definitely go to HR.

[hobo73]

Phil will be allowed near my daughter over my dead body.

 

He still has a bag of CDs over here, but he refuses to talk to my husband at all. He knows he did wrong, and Jeff is waiting for him to show up and say something stupid.

I see on his FB page that he's been talking about a "19 year old co worker", how cute she is, etc. he talked about her before and has a huuuuuge crush on her. It was disturbing to read- other pictures saying things like "I need a hug that turns into sex" & "I'm here for 2 reasons: drinking and f**king. And I'm about done drinking."

he always posted suggestive things before, but it's crazy now that all this has gone down. =/

 

Gangster, how's your situation?!

[snowdogged]

What is it with men thinking they can just have their way with us? Thinking that it's OK to go after MARRIED women that have made vows to their husbands? Hobo I know that you know from Facebook what is currently going on in my life with the clown from church/work. I'm so disgusted and stressed out this morning that I am literally sick to my stomach.

 

I have no idea why men think it is okay to do this. Ugh.

 

True story- once at a Richard Thompson show, a guy who was sitting with us (we didn't know him but it was a sit down show and you had to share tables) actually put his hand on my knee. Was pretty obvious before this happened that I was with my husband. This guy was on the other side of me. I took the guys hand and squeezed it as hard as I could. Should have seen the look on his face- I was seriously pissed. He did this during the set and almost let out a scream. Maybe he thought I wouldn't do anything because it was an acoustic set and everyone was quiet. Thought he had me. Joke was on him. He is lucky I didn't squeeze anything else. Jerk.

 

I hope no tolerance for people who purposely go out of their way to flirt with/make a play for others when they know they are married/taken. There are lots of single people out there. Really.

 

Well I can't agree with the last part since I've been known to throw myself at Geddy and I know we are both married, haha. (free pass! free pass!)

 

Anyway yeah, I don't even know where to begin with my story but I have a doozy much like Hobo's. I'm so sick and tired of these aggressive men that don't know when to keep their hands off!

 

If some guy puts his hands on you after you have asked him to stop he deserves a knee to the groin. A guy should never put his hands on a girl without some kind of permission of acknowledgement that it is ok. If it's a work situation maybe a physical reaction is a bad idea, but definitely go to HR.

I totally agree with everything that you said. I never put my hands on a woman until I pay her first.

 

But seriously, Hobo, I hope this loser will just back off and forget about you but if he continues it might be a good idea to get the law involved. He sounds extremely unstable!

[hobo73]

Small update of sorts:

 

The other day I was getting ready to walk to the store and Phil texted me, saying he's in the area, he wants his CD's back. I figured, perfect timing. Told him I would leave them on my front porch, hidden out of view from people on the sidewalk cause I'm bout to head out.

Well, "in the area" apparently meant "right down the street", because halfway up my little road, there he was.

 

Where the entrance to the park where I live starts, there are a few speed bumps. I had to awkwardly look away as he had to slow down, and he crept over the speed bumps as his headlights stayed on me. It was really weird. Even after the speed bumps, he slowed down then sped away. Once he was out of sight I half speed walked/half jogged up to the main sidewalk and went on my way.

 

I was so busy looking out the store windows and trying to get out of there, I left half my purchase on the counter & had to go right back -___- lol

[OGr8imL84AD8inF8sBlackSedan]

 

I slapped the hell out of him and eventually he blacked out.

 

You must hit hard.