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I'd like to say there is a formula, but really, there isn't. I know some couples who have been together since high school, still going strong , and others who wasted all of thier twenties with the wrong person ( I would be a good example of this) . I've had better relationships in my 30s and into my 40s. I would say MOST marriages in your early to mid 20s don't last, but again, it's all a crapshoot.
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I'd like to say there is a formula, but really, there isn't. I know some couples who have been together since high school, still going strong , and others who wasted all of thier twenties with the wrong person ( I would be a good example of this) . I've had better relationships in my 30s and into my 40s. I would say MOST marriages in your early to mid 20s don't last, but again, it's all a crapshoot.

I waited to my 30's to get married...very glad I did!
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I'd like to say there is a formula, but really, there isn't. I know some couples who have been together since high school, still going strong , and others who wasted all of thier twenties with the wrong person ( I would be a good example of this) . I've had better relationships in my 30s and into my 40s. I would say MOST marriages in your early to mid 20s don't last, but again, it's all a crapshoot.

I waited to my 30's to get married...very glad I did!

In my case, 32.

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I'd like to say there is a formula, but really, there isn't. I know some couples who have been together since high school, still going strong , and others who wasted all of thier twenties with the wrong person ( I would be a good example of this) . I've had better relationships in my 30s and into my 40s. I would say MOST marriages in your early to mid 20s don't last, but again, it's all a crapshoot.

I waited to my 30's to get married...very glad I did!

In my case, 32.

What a smart little kitty...I'm pretty sure that you're the ideal feline companion
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I'd like to say there is a formula, but really, there isn't. I know some couples who have been together since high school, still going strong , and others who wasted all of thier twenties with the wrong person ( I would be a good example of this) . I've had better relationships in my 30s and into my 40s. I would say MOST marriages in your early to mid 20s don't last, but again, it's all a crapshoot.

I waited to my 30's to get married...very glad I did!

In my case, 32.

What a smart little kitty...I'm pretty sure that you're the ideal feline companion

Well, this was about 10 years ago..! Am I still a smart little kitty and the ideal feline companion at almost 42..? :)

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Well, this was about 10 years ago..! Am I still a smart little kitty and the ideal feline companion at almost 42..? :)

 

What a great thing to say...this really does my heart good...I am so happy for you...I could easily post this in the "what made your day" thread.

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Well, this was about 10 years ago..! Am I still a smart little kitty and the ideal feline companion at almost 42..? :)

 

What a great thing to say...this really does my heart good...I am so happy for you...I could easily post this in the "what made your day" thread.

 

Go ahead..! :)

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I believe in marriage and love is forever and stuff....

:haz: I'd be a bad-ass wife!!

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I can't believe that me and my husband will be together 27 years in September. We met in college back in '86 and finally got married in '95. We were made for each other; neither of us had any prior relationships. He sure picked a real weird place to propose: an ATM machine!! (he's into banks...you have to know him to understand...)

 

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We met online. For the 4th of July, I would usually go to the beach and watch the bonfires and fireworks. For some reason, on that particular 4th of July, I didn't feel like going to Humarock and fighting through crowds and traffic and decided to join an online dating site instead. I signed up for a six month membership. Two hours after joining, I got an e-mail asking if we could meet. A few days later, we met at a restaurant and talked and shared a meal. We had both been through tough on-again/off-again relationships and were looking for some stability. She had also forgone her usual plans for the 4th of July, choosing instead to look online at the same dating site. Two weeks later, I went to a party with her and her family. We spent the day together and I couldn't remember ever feeling so at ease with someone. She was funny, she was easy to know, she was humble, she has the most amazing blue eyes I have ever seen. We talked long into the night. I never did go on any other dates from that dating site. Turns out, I didn't need a six month membership, I only needed a two hour one.

 

We are quite the opposite of the other. She has simple tastes and is easy to understand. She is very down to earth and humble. Me, not so much. We balance and compliment each other. She pulls me back from my flights of fancy and I round her out world and teach her new things (like Rush!). Of course, there are down times too, but I would not trade a single day of the time she has been in my life. She makes me a better person and I love her with all of my heart. I am grateful to have her in my life and I feel lucky to have found such a grounded and loving person. Our marriage is a natural extension of this feeling and our commitment to a life together.

 

Today is our second wedding anniversary. We both wish we'd met 20 years earlier. Of course, we couldn't have gotten married back then.

 

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We met online. For the 4th of July, I would usually go to the beach and watch the bonfires and fireworks. For some reason, on that particular 4th of July, I didn't feel like going to Humarock and fighting through crowds and traffic and decided to join an online dating site instead. I signed up for a six month membership. Two hours after joining, I got an e-mail asking if we could meet. A few days later, we met at a restaurant and talked and shared a meal. We had both been through tough on-again/off-again relationships and were looking for some stability. She had also forgone her usual plans for the 4th of July, choosing instead to look online at the same dating site. Two weeks later, I went to a party with her and her family. We spent the day together and I couldn't remember ever feeling so at ease with someone. She was funny, she was easy to know, she was humble, she has the most amazing blue eyes I have ever seen. We talked long into the night. I never did go on any other dates from that dating site. Turns out, I didn't need a six month membership, I only needed a two hour one.

 

We are quite the opposite of the other. She has simple tastes and is easy to understand. She is very down to earth and humble. Me, not so much. We balance and compliment each other. She pulls me back from my flights of fancy and I round her out world and teach her new things (like Rush!). Of course, there are down times too, but I would not trade a single day of the time she has been in my life. She makes me a better person and I love her with all of my heart. I am grateful to have her in my life and I feel lucky to have found such a grounded and loving person. Our marriage is a natural extension of this feeling and our commitment to a life together.

 

Today is our second wedding anniversary. We both wish we'd met 20 years earlier. Of course, we couldn't have gotten married back then.

 

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wonderful story...its funny how opposites attract.
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We met online. For the 4th of July, I would usually go to the beach and watch the bonfires and fireworks. For some reason, on that particular 4th of July, I didn't feel like going to Humarock and fighting through crowds and traffic and decided to join an online dating site instead. I signed up for a six month membership. Two hours after joining, I got an e-mail asking if we could meet. A few days later, we met at a restaurant and talked and shared a meal. We had both been through tough on-again/off-again relationships and were looking for some stability. She had also forgone her usual plans for the 4th of July, choosing instead to look online at the same dating site. Two weeks later, I went to a party with her and her family. We spent the day together and I couldn't remember ever feeling so at ease with someone. She was funny, she was easy to know, she was humble, she has the most amazing blue eyes I have ever seen. We talked long into the night. I never did go on any other dates from that dating site. Turns out, I didn't need a six month membership, I only needed a two hour one.

 

We are quite the opposite of the other. She has simple tastes and is easy to understand. She is very down to earth and humble. Me, not so much. We balance and compliment each other. She pulls me back from my flights of fancy and I round her out world and teach her new things (like Rush!). Of course, there are down times too, but I would not trade a single day of the time she has been in my life. She makes me a better person and I love her with all of my heart. I am grateful to have her in my life and I feel lucky to have found such a grounded and loving person. Our marriage is a natural extension of this feeling and our commitment to a life together.

 

Today is our second wedding anniversary. We both wish we'd met 20 years earlier. Of course, we couldn't have gotten married back then.

 

:heart:

 

 

 

Hey Cyg,

 

KICK-ASS story! (Kinda jealous over here!)

 

I have an idea for the marketing of a new dating site - I'm gonna (Canadian for "going to") call it:

 

"The Cygnus Gal Two Hour Meet-The-One-And-Only Dating Site."

 

I will need your written permission to use your awesome testimonial. However, I will gladly cut you in on the ad revenues...

 

Deal?

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We met online. For the 4th of July, I would usually go to the beach and watch the bonfires and fireworks. For some reason, on that particular 4th of July, I didn't feel like going to Humarock and fighting through crowds and traffic and decided to join an online dating site instead. I signed up for a six month membership. Two hours after joining, I got an e-mail asking if we could meet. A few days later, we met at a restaurant and talked and shared a meal. We had both been through tough on-again/off-again relationships and were looking for some stability. She had also forgone her usual plans for the 4th of July, choosing instead to look online at the same dating site. Two weeks later, I went to a party with her and her family. We spent the day together and I couldn't remember ever feeling so at ease with someone. She was funny, she was easy to know, she was humble, she has the most amazing blue eyes I have ever seen. We talked long into the night. I never did go on any other dates from that dating site. Turns out, I didn't need a six month membership, I only needed a two hour one.

 

We are quite the opposite of the other. She has simple tastes and is easy to understand. She is very down to earth and humble. Me, not so much. We balance and compliment each other. She pulls me back from my flights of fancy and I round her out world and teach her new things (like Rush!). Of course, there are down times too, but I would not trade a single day of the time she has been in my life. She makes me a better person and I love her with all of my heart. I am grateful to have her in my life and I feel lucky to have found such a grounded and loving person. Our marriage is a natural extension of this feeling and our commitment to a life together.

 

Today is our second wedding anniversary. We both wish we'd met 20 years earlier. Of course, we couldn't have gotten married back then.

 

:heart:

 

That's a really nice story.

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I remember back when I was about 12. There was this really skinny kid down the street (Missy something or other) and we used to go under the community centre and play spin the bottle. The thing was, that we were the only ones playing. So, even if the bottle pointed at nobody, we "did it" anyway.

 

I always wondered whatever happened to her. She's probably smokin' hot these days. (Facebook anyone?) Actually, on second thought, no... she's probably 4'10", weighs about 475, lost all her teeth in a bar fight back in '79, has a permanent zit on her forehead the size of third eye and is on her 9th marriage with 14 kids.

 

I guess I won't try to look her up, then, eh?

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Well, he was the only one who WASN'T a Nigerian scammer to answer my Craigslist ad. . . .

 

Kidding!

 

Honestly? There wasn't any one "ah - HAH!" moment for either of us. We may have had one of the most unromantic "proposals" ever. We were living together and one day I came home and announced, "I called Rick (our favorite priest) and we're all meeting for breakfast Friday to talk marriage plans."

 

Husband's response was, "Oh, OK, cool!" He did get me a ring a month or so later, though.

 

I also married kind of late - I had just turned 35. I'd been engaged in my 20's (we ended it because he reallyreallyreally wanted kids and I reallyreallyreally did not), but in retrospect it's good I waited. I think I was too much of a chaotic little mess to have married then.

 

It wouldn't bother me if he called me the c-word. In fact, we have "insult contests" sometimes:

 

Me: "You turdburglar."

Him: "Slut."

Me: "Assmunch."

Him: "Gutter bitch."

 

And so forth, until we get to the hardhitters like c--- and c-sucker.

 

We also have farting contests. :D

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Well, he was the only one who WASN'T a Nigerian scammer to answer my Craigslist ad. . . .

 

Kidding!

 

Honestly? There wasn't any one "ah - HAH!" moment for either of us. We may have had one of the most unromantic "proposals" ever. We were living together and one day I came home and announced, "I called Rick (our favorite priest) and we're all meeting for breakfast Friday to talk marriage plans."

 

Husband's response was, "Oh, OK, cool!" He did get me a ring a month or so later, though.

 

I also married kind of late - I had just turned 35. I'd been engaged in my 20's (we ended it because he reallyreallyreally wanted kids and I reallyreallyreally did not), but in retrospect it's good I waited. I think I was too much of a chaotic little mess to have married then.

 

It wouldn't bother me if he called me the c-word. In fact, we have "insult contests" sometimes:

 

Me: "You turdburglar."

Him: "Slut."

Me: "Assmunch."

Him: "Gutter bitch."

 

And so forth, until we get to the hardhitters like c--- and c-sucker.

 

We also have farting contests. :D

 

I'm going to have to steal "gutter bitch" for my own use.

 

:laughing guy:

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Well, he was the only one who WASN'T a Nigerian scammer to answer my Craigslist ad. . . .

 

Kidding!

 

Honestly? There wasn't any one "ah - HAH!" moment for either of us. We may have had one of the most unromantic "proposals" ever. We were living together and one day I came home and announced, "I called Rick (our favorite priest) and we're all meeting for breakfast Friday to talk marriage plans."

 

Husband's response was, "Oh, OK, cool!" He did get me a ring a month or so later, though.

 

I also married kind of late - I had just turned 35. I'd been engaged in my 20's (we ended it because he reallyreallyreally wanted kids and I reallyreallyreally did not), but in retrospect it's good I waited. I think I was too much of a chaotic little mess to have married then.

 

It wouldn't bother me if he called me the c-word. In fact, we have "insult contests" sometimes:

 

Me: "You turdburglar."

Him: "Slut."

Me: "Assmunch."

Him: "Gutter bitch."

 

And so forth, until we get to the hardhitters like c--- and c-sucker.

 

We also have farting contests. :D

 

I'm going to have to steal "gutter bitch" for my own use.

 

:laughing guy:

Kinda prefer "turdburglar", but "gutterbitch" will suffice in a pinch
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All of these stories in here are awesome. It's great to read all the different ways we "knew".

 

There's no way to tell someone how they will "know when it's the one" but when it does happen there'll be no doubt that they are indeed "the one".`

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My wife is obviously a very patient woman because whilst we have been together for over 30 years we married after 8 years of dating. She certainly had enough time to back away.

You know you love someone when you get that strange aching feeling in your heart when you think about them, even now when I am away on work trips I miss her and phone her regularly.

I'm a firm believer that marriage is something you only do once and that no one forces you to make that commitment. Too many people think marriage is just something you are entitled to do if you want and that can be discarded accordingly.

Mind you most people, on first meeting my wife, find it necessary to ask "how do you put up with him?" :LOL:

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I had a fair idea after a few weeks of dating. But the clincher came after two weeks up some mountain in Umbria, a true holiday from hell(in the most gorgeous place), roughly 8 months after we started going out. Without going into too many details(copious bottles of 99c wine might have had something to do with it), it's a miracle she didn't kill me, or least run me over with a steamroller. I knew then that I was in the presence of an extraordinary woman. Anyhoo, a few months later outside Notre Dame cathedral I popped the question.
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All of these stories in here are awesome. It's great to read all the different ways we "knew".

 

There's no way to tell someone how they will "know when it's the one" but when it does happen there'll be no doubt that they are indeed "the one".`

I have to agree with you. On the flip side they're moments after the wedding where we're caught thinking "Why in the f**k did I get married?"
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All of these stories in here are awesome. It's great to read all the different ways we "knew".

 

There's no way to tell someone how they will "know when it's the one" but when it does happen there'll be no doubt that they are indeed "the one".`

I have to agree with you. On the flip side they're moments after the wedding where we're caught thinking "Why in the f**k did I get married?"

 

met my wife in college. I remember my freshman year before classes even started, I saw her across the room dancing, I said to a buddy "im gonna marry that girl someday" I didnt even talk to her that night, and actually didnt really even bump into her until a few months later, we started dating in the spring. We started hanging out, going to lunch, dates etc. I had never met a more genuine, honest person in my life. I just loved being with her. I had dated a lot of nice girls, but she just was head and shoulders above any I had met. I guess the moment I knew was about 2 months into dating I just thought to myself "there is no way I will find another woman on this planet better than her." She really makes me a better person.

 

We got married about 2 weeks after graduation, we got married on campus, and 9 months and 2 hours after we got married she gave birth to our first son.

 

We have now been married for 5 years, best decision of my life. I love her more than I can imagine I could 5 years ago when we got married. She still thinks im awesome, even though after 2 kids she still looks like the all state gymnast she was when I first saw her, and I gained some sympathy pregnancy weight that I just cant seem to drop

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My husband and I met online March 2010. We had just gotten divorced from both our first marriages and we clicked fast. We have so much in common and everything has worked out great. We got married last year and are still going strong. We both wish we had met years ago but we are happy we are together now. Another thing is that we are both huge Rush fans. In the past when I would tell guys that I loved Rush they would laugh or they would say "yeah Tom Saywer is a good song". However, when my husband and I first started dating, he asked me if I liked Rush and I told him hell yeah! He then asked me what were some of the songs they sang and why did I like them. I named off a few songs and told him that their songs tell good stories. He was surprised to say the least.
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