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#41 Narps

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Posted 07 April 2015 - 06:08 PM

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Posted 07 April 2015 - 07:05 PM

View PostMara, on 07 April 2015 - 01:04 PM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 07 April 2015 - 12:33 PM, said:

View PostTombstone Mountain, on 06 April 2015 - 09:55 PM, said:

I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.
Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?
2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?
3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast
  
Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

I wish I could answer your whys, but I don't know why some girls act that way.  In my observations it seems to have dropped off with age, but that might also be a reflection of the female people I have in my life right now.  I know when I was younger, in high school and the years after, the girls I met were manipulative, using their looks and charm to take advantage of other people and I did not want to have any part of that. I saw too many girls who would target what they wanted (popularity, a certain boy, physical objects) and wouldn't let anything stand in their way as they used everything at their disposal to get that thing.  I also don't like the educational divide that happens between girls and boys, and the fact that it is assumed girls don't want to learn/will have difficulty learning math and science, so instead they are coddled and helped to avoid those subjects.  This translates, in part, to some girls not liking the sciences and thinking less of the ones who do.

With guys it just seems like so much of this crap doesn't exist.  As another poster mentioned, with guys you do run the risk of them wanting to change a platonic friendship into a romantic relationship (and to be fair, many of the guys I've slept with started off as friends) but that is easier to deal with, and it's one blatant thing that doesn't revolve around manipulation.  And it doesn't always exists, especially if one or both of you are already involved in other relationships.
One of my very best friends is my ex-fiance.  We were great friends prior to dating, and once a few years had passed after the broken engagement, we are back to that place.  Now, does he want to sleep with me?  Yep, and he freely admits it!  But he is also happy with just being platonic and it's not weird at all.
Mara I'm not trying to be cute with this question. This is serious.

It's not weird that you know he wants to go further with you? It seems like he's pining a bit. He's done so in the past (i'm guessing), yet now that's not an option for him, but you're still great friends? He's still entertaining that fantasy. Is that healthy for both of you? Him especially? I need help with that. Maybe I'm weird

Edited by Tombstone Mountain, 07 April 2015 - 09:10 PM.


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Posted 07 April 2015 - 09:31 PM

View PostTombstone Mountain, on 07 April 2015 - 07:05 PM, said:

View PostMara, on 07 April 2015 - 01:04 PM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 07 April 2015 - 12:33 PM, said:

View PostTombstone Mountain, on 06 April 2015 - 09:55 PM, said:

I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.
Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?
2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?
3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast
  
Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

I wish I could answer your whys, but I don't know why some girls act that way.  In my observations it seems to have dropped off with age, but that might also be a reflection of the female people I have in my life right now.  I know when I was younger, in high school and the years after, the girls I met were manipulative, using their looks and charm to take advantage of other people and I did not want to have any part of that. I saw too many girls who would target what they wanted (popularity, a certain boy, physical objects) and wouldn't let anything stand in their way as they used everything at their disposal to get that thing.  I also don't like the educational divide that happens between girls and boys, and the fact that it is assumed girls don't want to learn/will have difficulty learning math and science, so instead they are coddled and helped to avoid those subjects.  This translates, in part, to some girls not liking the sciences and thinking less of the ones who do.

With guys it just seems like so much of this crap doesn't exist.  As another poster mentioned, with guys you do run the risk of them wanting to change a platonic friendship into a romantic relationship (and to be fair, many of the guys I've slept with started off as friends) but that is easier to deal with, and it's one blatant thing that doesn't revolve around manipulation.  And it doesn't always exists, especially if one or both of you are already involved in other relationships.
One of my very best friends is my ex-fiance.  We were great friends prior to dating, and once a few years had passed after the broken engagement, we are back to that place.  Now, does he want to sleep with me?  Yep, and he freely admits it!  But he is also happy with just being platonic and it's not weird at all.
Mara I'm not trying to be cute with this question. This is serious.

It's not weird that you know he wants to go further with you? It seems like he's pining a bit. He's done so in the past (i'm guessing), yet now that's not an option for him, but you're still great friends? He's still entertaining that fantasy. Is that healthy for both of you? Him especially? I need help with that. Maybe I'm weird

He's not pining.  He really isn't.  You'd have to know him.  He's bold, cheerfully confident, and forward without being pushy at all.   We started off as great friends for a while before we became a couple.  We reconnected about 6 years ago (engagement broke off in 1996, after we'd been together 8 years with a couple of short splits).  He's just out there and so am I.  It's comfortable with him.  He knows where the boundaries are and would never try to get me to do anything I didn't want to do.  I also know that if I ever, ever needed him for something, he'd be here.  He is that kind of a person.  Just not someone I could have married, and that shakes both ways.

It IS weird, and rare.  And perhaps it would be different if he lived closer (he's in Delaware, and I am in GA). But we're not, so that isn't a problem.

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Posted 07 April 2015 - 09:40 PM

View PostMara, on 07 April 2015 - 09:31 PM, said:

View PostTombstone Mountain, on 07 April 2015 - 07:05 PM, said:

View PostMara, on 07 April 2015 - 01:04 PM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 07 April 2015 - 12:33 PM, said:

View PostTombstone Mountain, on 06 April 2015 - 09:55 PM, said:

I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.
Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?
2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?
3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast
  
Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

I wish I could answer your whys, but I don't know why some girls act that way.  In my observations it seems to have dropped off with age, but that might also be a reflection of the female people I have in my life right now.  I know when I was younger, in high school and the years after, the girls I met were manipulative, using their looks and charm to take advantage of other people and I did not want to have any part of that. I saw too many girls who would target what they wanted (popularity, a certain boy, physical objects) and wouldn't let anything stand in their way as they used everything at their disposal to get that thing.  I also don't like the educational divide that happens between girls and boys, and the fact that it is assumed girls don't want to learn/will have difficulty learning math and science, so instead they are coddled and helped to avoid those subjects.  This translates, in part, to some girls not liking the sciences and thinking less of the ones who do.

With guys it just seems like so much of this crap doesn't exist.  As another poster mentioned, with guys you do run the risk of them wanting to change a platonic friendship into a romantic relationship (and to be fair, many of the guys I've slept with started off as friends) but that is easier to deal with, and it's one blatant thing that doesn't revolve around manipulation.  And it doesn't always exists, especially if one or both of you are already involved in other relationships.
One of my very best friends is my ex-fiance.  We were great friends prior to dating, and once a few years had passed after the broken engagement, we are back to that place.  Now, does he want to sleep with me?  Yep, and he freely admits it!  But he is also happy with just being platonic and it's not weird at all.
Mara I'm not trying to be cute with this question. This is serious.

It's not weird that you know he wants to go further with you? It seems like he's pining a bit. He's done so in the past (i'm guessing), yet now that's not an option for him, but you're still great friends? He's still entertaining that fantasy. Is that healthy for both of you? Him especially? I need help with that. Maybe I'm weird

He's not pining.  He really isn't.  You'd have to know him.  He's bold, cheerfully confident, and forward without being pushy at all.   We started off as great friends for a while before we became a couple.  We reconnected about 6 years ago (engagement broke off in 1996, after we'd been together 8 years with a couple of short splits).  He's just out there and so am I.  It's comfortable with him.  He knows where the boundaries are and would never try to get me to do anything I didn't want to do.  I also know that if I ever, ever needed him for something, he'd be here.  He is that kind of a person.  Just not someone I could have married, and that shakes both ways.

It IS weird, and rare.  And perhaps it would be different if he lived closer (he's in Delaware, and I am in GA). But we're not, so that isn't a problem.
I really appreciate your candor. Wow, if only guys could share like this! Apprently this is a hot topic. There's 24 visitors on this thread right now

Edited by Tombstone Mountain, 07 April 2015 - 09:40 PM.


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Posted 07 April 2015 - 09:45 PM

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 06:04 PM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 07 April 2015 - 05:59 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 07 April 2015 - 05:46 PM, said:

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 05:13 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 07 April 2015 - 05:08 PM, said:

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 03:25 PM, said:

View PostDigital Man, on 07 April 2015 - 03:02 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 06 April 2015 - 05:08 PM, said:

I'm both.

I relate more to men, but I think I'm girly.
I have girl friends - but my best friend is Digi :wub:
I like "pretty"
I like doing my hair, and makeup (but I'm not afraid to go without & I still feel good without them "done.")
I enjoy getting my nails done - but haven't had the luxury of the extra cash for a few years to spend 40-50/ month on them. I'd rather save for a vacation or concert.
I also like loud music, and concerts and beer and partying.
I very much enjoy being told I'm pretty - and since Digi tells me everyday - I consider myself spoiled.

*edit for grammar :doh:



I tell her she is beautiful everyday because it happens to be the truth.
This is a wonderful thing but not so wonderful when you do this and they don't believe you... :sigh:
That's a self esteem issue for them. :(
Oh yes. She has plenty of that. She is well overweight and hates it. That is the crux of the problem. When it comes to such things as I have found out myself, if you want to change something it must come from within for it ever to get done. If she ever decides to do something about it I will support her and have in the past but she gives up very quickly. She is still beautiful to me but she sadly doesn't buy it... :(
You're so right.  It HAS to start from her.
Losing weight is difficult. And such a slow process, if you do it right.
:heart: It's hard to bang your heart against some mad buggers wall  someone that doesn't believe you.
  I know women who are perfectly happy weighing 250, 300 pounds
Well she isn't one of them. She thought she was fat and overweight when we met and she weighed 130 then. She would give up a finger to be that weight again...
  

I've known women like that. They make their weight an issue in their lives when it's not really about the weight at all. It's more about being afraid to be seen as sexually appealing.

I want to append my comment and say that I'm talking about women who don't have physical issues that cause weight gain, but ones where it's psychological.

#46 Mara

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Posted 07 April 2015 - 09:50 PM

View PostTombstone Mountain, on 07 April 2015 - 09:40 PM, said:

View PostMara, on 07 April 2015 - 09:31 PM, said:

View PostTombstone Mountain, on 07 April 2015 - 07:05 PM, said:

View PostMara, on 07 April 2015 - 01:04 PM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 07 April 2015 - 12:33 PM, said:

View PostTombstone Mountain, on 06 April 2015 - 09:55 PM, said:

I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.
Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?
2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?
3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast
  
Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

I wish I could answer your whys, but I don't know why some girls act that way.  In my observations it seems to have dropped off with age, but that might also be a reflection of the female people I have in my life right now.  I know when I was younger, in high school and the years after, the girls I met were manipulative, using their looks and charm to take advantage of other people and I did not want to have any part of that. I saw too many girls who would target what they wanted (popularity, a certain boy, physical objects) and wouldn't let anything stand in their way as they used everything at their disposal to get that thing.  I also don't like the educational divide that happens between girls and boys, and the fact that it is assumed girls don't want to learn/will have difficulty learning math and science, so instead they are coddled and helped to avoid those subjects.  This translates, in part, to some girls not liking the sciences and thinking less of the ones who do.

With guys it just seems like so much of this crap doesn't exist.  As another poster mentioned, with guys you do run the risk of them wanting to change a platonic friendship into a romantic relationship (and to be fair, many of the guys I've slept with started off as friends) but that is easier to deal with, and it's one blatant thing that doesn't revolve around manipulation.  And it doesn't always exists, especially if one or both of you are already involved in other relationships.
One of my very best friends is my ex-fiance.  We were great friends prior to dating, and once a few years had passed after the broken engagement, we are back to that place.  Now, does he want to sleep with me?  Yep, and he freely admits it!  But he is also happy with just being platonic and it's not weird at all.
Mara I'm not trying to be cute with this question. This is serious.

It's not weird that you know he wants to go further with you? It seems like he's pining a bit. He's done so in the past (i'm guessing), yet now that's not an option for him, but you're still great friends? He's still entertaining that fantasy. Is that healthy for both of you? Him especially? I need help with that. Maybe I'm weird

He's not pining.  He really isn't.  You'd have to know him.  He's bold, cheerfully confident, and forward without being pushy at all.   We started off as great friends for a while before we became a couple.  We reconnected about 6 years ago (engagement broke off in 1996, after we'd been together 8 years with a couple of short splits).  He's just out there and so am I.  It's comfortable with him.  He knows where the boundaries are and would never try to get me to do anything I didn't want to do.  I also know that if I ever, ever needed him for something, he'd be here.  He is that kind of a person.  Just not someone I could have married, and that shakes both ways.

It IS weird, and rare.  And perhaps it would be different if he lived closer (he's in Delaware, and I am in GA). But we're not, so that isn't a problem.
I really appreciate your candor. Wow, if only guys could share like this! Apprently this is a hot topic. There's 24 visitors on this thread right now

I mean, this morning he texted me with "Hey, hottie!"  We exchanged a little banter, then had a more substantial conversation.  I really can't explain it - it's just easy and comfortable with him to be kind of bold and flirty now and then.  If I wanted to move the boundaries?  I know he'd go for it.  But it'd be entirely up to me.

It is a unique friendship.

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Posted 07 April 2015 - 11:25 PM

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 06:04 PM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 07 April 2015 - 05:59 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 07 April 2015 - 05:46 PM, said:

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 05:13 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 07 April 2015 - 05:08 PM, said:

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 03:25 PM, said:

View PostDigital Man, on 07 April 2015 - 03:02 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 06 April 2015 - 05:08 PM, said:

I'm both.

I relate more to men, but I think I'm girly.
I have girl friends - but my best friend is Digi :wub:
I like "pretty"
I like doing my hair, and makeup (but I'm not afraid to go without & I still feel good without them "done.")
I enjoy getting my nails done - but haven't had the luxury of the extra cash for a few years to spend 40-50/ month on them. I'd rather save for a vacation or concert.
I also like loud music, and concerts and beer and partying.
I very much enjoy being told I'm pretty - and since Digi tells me everyday - I consider myself spoiled.

*edit for grammar :doh:



I tell her she is beautiful everyday because it happens to be the truth.
This is a wonderful thing but not so wonderful when you do this and they don't believe you... :sigh:
That's a self esteem issue for them. :(
Oh yes. She has plenty of that. She is well overweight and hates it. That is the crux of the problem. When it comes to such things as I have found out myself, if you want to change something it must come from within for it ever to get done. If she ever decides to do something about it I will support her and have in the past but she gives up very quickly. She is still beautiful to me but she sadly doesn't buy it... :(
You're so right.  It HAS to start from her.
Losing weight is difficult. And such a slow process, if you do it right.
:heart: It's hard to bang your heart against some mad buggers wall  someone that doesn't believe you.
  I know women who are perfectly happy weighing 250, 300 pounds
Well she isn't one of them. She thought she was fat and overweight when we met and she weighed 130 then. She would give up a finger to be that weight again...

Oh, I didn't mean to imply she was one of them.  I just meant to say that there are some very large women who are fine with their size  (and so are their boyfriends!).

#48 Tombstone Mountain

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Posted 08 April 2015 - 06:16 AM

View Postx1yyz, on 07 April 2015 - 11:25 PM, said:

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 06:04 PM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 07 April 2015 - 05:59 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 07 April 2015 - 05:46 PM, said:

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 05:13 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 07 April 2015 - 05:08 PM, said:

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 03:25 PM, said:

View PostDigital Man, on 07 April 2015 - 03:02 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 06 April 2015 - 05:08 PM, said:

I'm both.

I relate more to men, but I think I'm girly.
I have girl friends - but my best friend is Digi :wub:
I like "pretty"
I like doing my hair, and makeup (but I'm not afraid to go without & I still feel good without them "done.")
I enjoy getting my nails done - but haven't had the luxury of the extra cash for a few years to spend 40-50/ month on them. I'd rather save for a vacation or concert.
I also like loud music, and concerts and beer and partying.
I very much enjoy being told I'm pretty - and since Digi tells me everyday - I consider myself spoiled.

*edit for grammar :doh:



I tell her she is beautiful everyday because it happens to be the truth.
This is a wonderful thing but not so wonderful when you do this and they don't believe you... :sigh:
That's a self esteem issue for them. :(
Oh yes. She has plenty of that. She is well overweight and hates it. That is the crux of the problem. When it comes to such things as I have found out myself, if you want to change something it must come from within for it ever to get done. If she ever decides to do something about it I will support her and have in the past but she gives up very quickly. She is still beautiful to me but she sadly doesn't buy it... :(
You're so right.  It HAS to start from her.
Losing weight is difficult. And such a slow process, if you do it right.
:heart: It's hard to bang your heart against some mad buggers wall  someone that doesn't believe you.
  I know women who are perfectly happy weighing 250, 300 pounds
Well she isn't one of them. She thought she was fat and overweight when we met and she weighed 130 then. She would give up a finger to be that weight again...
There are some very large women who are fine with their size and so are their boyfriends!.
Yep you're right! Here's proof:


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Posted 08 April 2015 - 07:50 AM

View Postx1yyz, on 07 April 2015 - 11:25 PM, said:

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 06:04 PM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 07 April 2015 - 05:59 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 07 April 2015 - 05:46 PM, said:

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 05:13 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 07 April 2015 - 05:08 PM, said:

View PostNarpsberg, on 07 April 2015 - 03:25 PM, said:

View PostDigital Man, on 07 April 2015 - 03:02 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 06 April 2015 - 05:08 PM, said:

I'm both.

I relate more to men, but I think I'm girly.
I have girl friends - but my best friend is Digi :wub:
I like "pretty"
I like doing my hair, and makeup (but I'm not afraid to go without & I still feel good without them "done.")
I enjoy getting my nails done - but haven't had the luxury of the extra cash for a few years to spend 40-50/ month on them. I'd rather save for a vacation or concert.
I also like loud music, and concerts and beer and partying.
I very much enjoy being told I'm pretty - and since Digi tells me everyday - I consider myself spoiled.

*edit for grammar :doh:



I tell her she is beautiful everyday because it happens to be the truth.
This is a wonderful thing but not so wonderful when you do this and they don't believe you... :sigh:
That's a self esteem issue for them. :(
Oh yes. She has plenty of that. She is well overweight and hates it. That is the crux of the problem. When it comes to such things as I have found out myself, if you want to change something it must come from within for it ever to get done. If she ever decides to do something about it I will support her and have in the past but she gives up very quickly. She is still beautiful to me but she sadly doesn't buy it... :(
You're so right.  It HAS to start from her.
Losing weight is difficult. And such a slow process, if you do it right.
:heart: It's hard to bang your heart against some mad buggers wall  someone that doesn't believe you.
  I know women who are perfectly happy weighing 250, 300 pounds
Well she isn't one of them. She thought she was fat and overweight when we met and she weighed 130 then. She would give up a finger to be that weight again...

Oh, I didn't mean to imply she was one of them.  I just meant to say that there are some very large women who are fine with their size  (and so are their boyfriends!).
I know you didn't mean anything by it. I know there are ladies that say and appear to be cool with it. Some probably truly are but I bet most aren't. My wife most certainly isn't happy with it at all... :)

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Posted 08 April 2015 - 04:19 PM

View Postsundog, on 07 April 2015 - 05:46 PM, said:

Losing weight is difficult. And such a slow process, if you do it right.
:heart: It's hard to bang your heart against some mad buggers wall  someone that doesn't believe you.
Here are some of my opinions.... It can be difficult losing weight.  It gets harder as you age.  You need to eliminate medical reasons that may prevent you from losing.  Not every diet works for each individual.  You have to find one that works and once you start seeing results, you have to stick to it.  Something has to spark you to make it your top priority.  You learn what patience is about and don't beat yourself up when you stumble.
As for the topic, I think I'm more of a guy's girl.  I didn't wear a wedding gown when I got married (just a dress), no veil either.  I like pro sports which most guys do also.

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Posted 08 April 2015 - 04:22 PM

View PostRushCanuck, on 08 April 2015 - 04:19 PM, said:

View Postsundog, on 07 April 2015 - 05:46 PM, said:

Losing weight is difficult. And such a slow process, if you do it right.
:heart: It's hard to bang your heart against some mad buggers wall  someone that doesn't believe you.
Here are some of my opinions.... It can be difficult losing weight.  It gets harder as you age.  You need to eliminate medical reasons that may prevent you from losing.  Not every diet works for each individual.  You have to find one that works and once you start seeing results, you have to stick to it.  Something has to spark you to make it your top priority.  You learn what patience is about and don't beat yourself up when you stumble.
As for the topic, I think I'm more of a guy's girl.  I didn't wear a wedding gown when I got married (just a dress), no veil either.  I like pro sports which most guys do also.
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Posted 08 April 2015 - 08:48 PM

View PostTombstone Mountain, on 06 April 2015 - 09:55 PM, said:

I have so many questions...may I ask away? A few of you ladies have hit on something I think will lead to a deeper place.
Screw it--here are the comments that stuck out to me:

1) It's much easier for me to have a conversation with a guy than with another girl--WHY?
2) Women tend to be very competitive and judgmental in comparison--WHY?
3) Have no time for the cattiness that so many women seem to indulge in--I don't have to ask why. That kinda shit gets old fast
  
Is it your opinion that women competing for the attention of males, or just attention? Is there an underlying control thing going on?

I think males are a huge reason why. Case in point: a friend of mine is a school teacher, and has said that when she teaches a roomful of girls, they all get along well, but as soon as the room becomes mixed, they start acting up. Girls are very insecure in a lot of ways and I think they are always afraid they will never be "the one" for the guy they have their eye on, and the competition causes jealousy.

I would say in my own opinion that girls are raised to be "proper", to act a certain way, to toe the line of decency with everything. Many girls, because of this, don't learn to properly socialize with others. Think about it, you can't play because you can't get your dress dirty, talking a certain way isn't "ladylike", etc. Always have to mind your behavior, looks, etc to meet with society's approval. All work and no play makes Jackie a dull girl. That's not the kind of person I wanted to be.

So yes, I always related better to males. I loved the freedom boys seemed to have. Almost as if they were expected to be a little wild, and that was ok because they were boys. So I grew up loving sports, cars, rock and roll, etc. A tomboy, but content with who I was.

I will agree that as women get older, the catty behavior tends to decline quite a bit. But man, those younger years.....yikes....I'd be scared to have a teenage daughter!

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Posted 23 April 2015 - 11:11 AM

I guess I don't fit into a category regarding this.stuff. If you're a genuine, funny, cool person, I'll be friends with you. My closest "best friends" are women, but I identify with lots of dudes too. I'm equally comfortable with both. Both sexes can be shallow and mean. Men and women just go about it differently.

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Posted 23 April 2015 - 04:27 PM

I still do not have an answer. Oh well, moving on...:outtahere:

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Posted 29 April 2015 - 03:37 PM

I don't relate easily to women who want to spend all their time with women, or men who want to spend all their time with men. I'm comfortable with people who are just themselves and not hung up about gender stuff all the time. Or age, come to think of it.

I hadn't really thought about it before, but only one of my close friends is female, straight and about the same age as me. All the others are male and/or gay and/or at least 10 years older or younger than me...

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Posted 29 April 2015 - 04:34 PM

View Postanima, on 29 April 2015 - 03:37 PM, said:

I don't relate easily to women who want to spend all their time with women, or men who want to spend all their time with men. I'm comfortable with people who are just themselves and not hung up about gender stuff all the time. Or age, come to think of it.

I hadn't really thought about it before, but only one of my close friends is female, straight and about the same age as me. All the others are male and/or gay and/or at least 10 years older or younger than me...

I have a couple of close friends that are within a couple of years of age of me, but most of them are 10 years or so older or younger.  They're also very eclectic and geeky for the most part.  :lol:

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Posted 29 April 2015 - 07:42 PM

the only girls who have ever been attracted to me are "guy's girls." and they've all had abusive parents. something about your mom not loving you makes a girl really wanna wear leather and listen to metal.

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Posted 29 April 2015 - 07:43 PM

and f**k around with long-haired cavemen boys

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Posted 29 April 2015 - 07:48 PM

View Postanima, on 29 April 2015 - 03:37 PM, said:

I don't relate easily to women who want to spend all their time with women, or men who want to spend all their time with men. I'm comfortable with people who are just themselves and not hung up about gender stuff all the time. Or age, come to think of it.

I hadn't really thought about it before, but only one of my close friends is female, straight and about the same age as me. All the others are male and/or gay and/or at least 10 years older or younger than me...

What's interesting is that my wife is NOT a "hang out with the girls" kind of woman..she actually HATES "girls night out" when she has to do it for "political" reasons!   She has a better time hanging out with me and my male friends (or her male friends...heck, in fact her best friend is a Dr. she used to work with who lives out of state) or at a college football game during the season!  Personally...besides the guys I dive with, I always had more fun hanging with the ladies I worked with as opposed to the guys because it was more fun as opposed to "whoa check out those babes!" (with all married guys who technically weren't going anywhere) and drink a shitload of (cheap) beer!

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Posted 29 April 2015 - 07:50 PM

View Postbathory, on 29 April 2015 - 07:42 PM, said:

the only girls who have ever been attracted to me are "guy's girls." and they've all had abusive parents. something about your mom not loving you makes a girl really wanna wear leather and listen to metal.
There may be a job in the psychology field awaiting you in your future... :)




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