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#21 Janie

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Posted 11 October 2014 - 07:15 PM

View PostCyclonus X-1, on 11 October 2014 - 05:10 PM, said:

I offer to pay for everything.  And if the offer is declined, I breathe an inward sigh of relief.
Yep. Right there.

I have not been on a "date" date for almost 18 years now. Maybe some things have changed though.

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Posted 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

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Posted 11 October 2014 - 07:26 PM

:rfl:

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Posted 11 October 2014 - 09:56 PM

View Postumoveme, on 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM, said:

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

Are you paying, then?

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Posted 11 October 2014 - 10:56 PM

Just plan it out beforehand. If you're short on cash, tell her. If she won't date you because of that, you're probably better off without her.

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 01:13 PM

I've been in a monogamous relationship for 12 years so it's been awhile since I've been on a date, but for the first few dates I think whomever did the asking should offer to pay.  In general, at least until the relationship becomes more long-standing, the girl should always offer to pay her share.  But it's really nice when the guy picks up the bill anyhow*.

Years ago there was a time I was unemployed.  A guy asked me out to dinner and I agreed to go, but stated ahead of time I was broke and could not afford to pay.  When we got the check at the end of dinner this lovely man realized he has "forgotten" his wallet and I was stuck putting both our dinners on my credit card.  F&#k him.  Or more accurately, I didn't!

* This only applies if he is interested in seeing her again.  If not, there is no reason the bill should not be split.  If she makes a lot more money than him then reverse the roles.

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 01:19 PM

View Postx1yyz, on 12 October 2014 - 01:13 PM, said:

I've been in a monogamous relationship for 12 years so it's been awhile since I've been on a date, but for the first few dates I think whomever did the asking should offer to pay.  In general, at least until the relationship becomes more long-standing, the girl should always offer to pay her share.  But it's really nice when the guy picks up the bill anyhow*.

Years ago there was a time I was unemployed.  A guy asked me out to dinner and I agreed to go, but stated ahead of time I was broke and could not afford to pay.  When we got the check at the end of dinner this lovely man realized he has "forgotten" his wallet and I was stuck putting both our dinners on my credit card. F&#k him.  Or more accurately, I didn't!

* This only applies if he is interested in seeing her again.  If not, there is no reason the bill should not be split.  If she makes a lot more money than him then reverse the roles.
:cheers: good1..... :D

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 01:55 PM

View Postumoveme, on 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM, said:

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

Seems fair

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 06:15 PM

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 12 October 2014 - 01:55 PM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM, said:

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

Seems fair

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"Sounds great!"

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 06:39 PM

View PostThatLightInYourEyes, on 12 October 2014 - 06:15 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 12 October 2014 - 01:55 PM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM, said:

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

Seems fair

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"Sounds great!"

You're definitely paying.

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 07:52 PM

View PostThatLightInYourEyes, on 12 October 2014 - 06:15 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 12 October 2014 - 01:55 PM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM, said:

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

Seems fair

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"Sounds great!"
In this case I think it might be better to give than receive..... :eh:

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 08:18 PM

View PostNarpski, on 12 October 2014 - 07:52 PM, said:

View PostThatLightInYourEyes, on 12 October 2014 - 06:15 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 12 October 2014 - 01:55 PM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM, said:

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

Seems fair

Posted Image

"Sounds great!"
In this case I think it might be better to give than receive..... :eh:

Inorite???  It's probably just her mouth that's all banged up.  The rest of her could be pretty decent.

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Posted 12 October 2014 - 08:20 PM

View PostDr. Sheldon Cooper, on 12 October 2014 - 08:18 PM, said:

View PostNarpski, on 12 October 2014 - 07:52 PM, said:

View PostThatLightInYourEyes, on 12 October 2014 - 06:15 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 12 October 2014 - 01:55 PM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM, said:

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

Seems fair

Posted Image

"Sounds great!"
In this case I think it might be better to give than receive..... :eh:

Inorite???  It's probably just her mouth that's all banged up.  The rest of her could be pretty decent.
Could be.... :cool:

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Posted 13 October 2014 - 12:06 AM

The man pays... just because!

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Posted 13 October 2014 - 09:19 AM

View PostLorraine, on 11 October 2014 - 05:03 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 11 October 2014 - 04:59 PM, said:

But why is it the man who must pay? It's like saying "I'm a woman and no less than a man, but you pay for my dinner". At least take turns.
I come from a different generation.  Thank goodness.

I will let you gentlemen duke it out among your liberated selves.  :hockey:

I rather agree with Lorraine here.

I have no plans to begin dating anyone anyway, so take this however you will. But if I were to ask someone out to do anything that costs money, then yes, I'm buying. And if I were asked by someone else, I'd still buy. That's just the way I am. Doesn't matter if it's the first date, second date, or twentieth date. I don't see that it's a question of either being liberated or not liberated. That's just the way I am.

They key is to be comfortable enough together that you don't have to do things on a date that always cost money. Just spend time together. And if that's not good enough, then you need to reevaluate the whole thing anyway.

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Posted 13 October 2014 - 09:39 AM

View PostBlue J, on 13 October 2014 - 09:19 AM, said:

View PostLorraine, on 11 October 2014 - 05:03 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 11 October 2014 - 04:59 PM, said:

But why is it the man who must pay? It's like saying "I'm a woman and no less than a man, but you pay for my dinner". At least take turns.
I come from a different generation.  Thank goodness.

I will let you gentlemen duke it out among your liberated selves.  :hockey:

I rather agree with Lorraine here.

I have no plans to begin dating anyone anyway, so take this however you will. But if I were to ask someone out to do anything that costs money, then yes, I'm buying. And if I were asked by someone else, I'd still buy. That's just the way I am. Doesn't matter if it's the first date, second date, or twentieth date. I don't see that it's a question of either being liberated or not liberated. That's just the way I am.

They key is to be comfortable enough together that you don't have to do things on a date that always cost money. Just spend time together. And if that's not good enough, then you need to reevaluate the whole thing anyway.
And I rather agree with both Lorraine and Blue J. I think the man should ask for at least the first three dates and pay for those dates. As I recall, he's well-rewarded at the end of date #3.

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Posted 13 October 2014 - 12:43 PM

View PostJanie, on 13 October 2014 - 09:39 AM, said:

View PostBlue J, on 13 October 2014 - 09:19 AM, said:

View PostLorraine, on 11 October 2014 - 05:03 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 11 October 2014 - 04:59 PM, said:

But why is it the man who must pay? It's like saying "I'm a woman and no less than a man, but you pay for my dinner". At least take turns.
I come from a different generation.  Thank goodness.

I will let you gentlemen duke it out among your liberated selves.  :hockey:

I rather agree with Lorraine here.

I have no plans to begin dating anyone anyway, so take this however you will. But if I were to ask someone out to do anything that costs money, then yes, I'm buying. And if I were asked by someone else, I'd still buy. That's just the way I am. Doesn't matter if it's the first date, second date, or twentieth date. I don't see that it's a question of either being liberated or not liberated. That's just the way I am.

They key is to be comfortable enough together that you don't have to do things on a date that always cost money. Just spend time together. And if that's not good enough, then you need to reevaluate the whole thing anyway.
And I rather agree with both Lorraine and Blue J. I think the man should ask for at least the first three dates and pay for those dates. As I recall, he's well-rewarded at the end of date #3.
I only went out on two "first dates" in my entire life. I did pretty well on both but for different reasons.... ;)

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Posted 13 October 2014 - 01:11 PM

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 12 October 2014 - 01:55 PM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM, said:

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

Seems fair

Come to think of it, I know a certain young lady who owes me a blowjob then!

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Posted 13 October 2014 - 01:15 PM

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 13 October 2014 - 01:11 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 12 October 2014 - 01:55 PM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM, said:

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

Seems fair

Come to think of it, I know a certain young lady who owes me a blowjob then!
:cool: :d13:

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Posted 13 October 2014 - 01:38 PM

View PostNarpski, on 13 October 2014 - 01:15 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 13 October 2014 - 01:11 PM, said:

View PostThe Analog Grownup, on 12 October 2014 - 01:55 PM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 11 October 2014 - 07:23 PM, said:

The inviter should pay....... Then receive oral.

Seems fair

Come to think of it, I know a certain young lady who owes me a blowjob then!
:cool: :d13:

Sh**! :facepalm: :lol:




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