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#41 laughedatbytime

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Posted 19 April 2014 - 06:58 PM

IR, please keep us updated on your status.

You've been through so much in your life...no one should EVER EVER EVER hear from their parents what you've heard from yours.

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Posted 19 April 2014 - 07:12 PM

There are many here to help you, IR.  I will be back on Monday.

Hold on tight.  :hug2:

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Posted 19 April 2014 - 07:25 PM

I've reached out privately and have not gotten a response.  If anyone knows this gal beyond this forum please let me know.  I am becoming worried.

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Posted 19 April 2014 - 07:43 PM

View PostRushchick10, on 19 April 2014 - 07:25 PM, said:

I've reached out privately and have not gotten a response.  If anyone knows this gal beyond this forum please let me know.  I am becoming worried.

Speaking as someone who has some life experience with the kind of tumult she's going through, honestly I'd say it's touch-and-go right now. But she's stronger than she gives herself credit for; we all are. I believe she'll see it through, no matter what it takes.

But I am hoping and praying for her nonetheless.

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Posted 19 April 2014 - 08:31 PM

I am so sorry about that IR!!!!!!!!!

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Posted 19 April 2014 - 09:18 PM

I am still alive; I am so sorry for taking so long to respond. I hope no one thinks I was trying to ignore anyone... that's not it at all. I'm just feeling very sad, and needed to retreat for a while. I am feeling slightly better than I was earlier, but am nowhere near being okay. I will get through this though - what other choice is there? I thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for being so sincere and taking the time to respond. I didn't mean to worry/upset anyone. I'm so sorry if I have. What everyone has written on here has given me the strength I needed to emotionally stabilize and pick myself back up. It's wonderful to know there are still so many beautiful people in this world.

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Posted 19 April 2014 - 09:23 PM

View PostIntermolecular Reality, on 19 April 2014 - 09:18 PM, said:

I am still alive; I am so sorry for taking so long to respond. I hope no one thinks I was trying to ignore anyone... that's not it at all. I'm just feeling very sad, and needed to retreat for a while. I am feeling slightly better than I was earlier, but am nowhere near being okay. I will get through this though - what other choice is there? I thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for being so sincere and taking the time to respond. I didn't mean to worry/upset anyone. I'm so sorry if I have. What everyone has written on here has given me the strength I needed to emotionally stabilize and pick myself back up. It's wonderful to know there are still so many beautiful people in this world.
I'm SO glad to hear this...especially the part where you say you'll get through this.     There's a lot of great advice that was offered here so here's hoping you take it to heart, and that things do get better for you...

Good thoughts are coming your way from a lot of good people here who have been touched by your story and who are rooting for you big time...

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Posted 19 April 2014 - 09:30 PM

View Postlaughedatbytime, on 19 April 2014 - 09:23 PM, said:

View PostIntermolecular Reality, on 19 April 2014 - 09:18 PM, said:

I am still alive; I am so sorry for taking so long to respond. I hope no one thinks I was trying to ignore anyone... that's not it at all. I'm just feeling very sad, and needed to retreat for a while. I am feeling slightly better than I was earlier, but am nowhere near being okay. I will get through this though - what other choice is there? I thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for being so sincere and taking the time to respond. I didn't mean to worry/upset anyone. I'm so sorry if I have. What everyone has written on here has given me the strength I needed to emotionally stabilize and pick myself back up. It's wonderful to know there are still so many beautiful people in this world.
I'm SO glad to hear this...especially the part where you say you'll get through this. There's a lot of great advice that was offered here so here's hoping you take it to heart, and that things do get better for you...

Good thoughts are coming your way from a lot of good people here who have been touched by your story and who are rooting for you big time...
Thank you so much, laughedatbytime. I really would love to respond to everyone, but I would be sitting here for quite a while. Maybe I'll be able to work on that tomorrow. I have a horrible headache, and I think a good night's rest will do me some good, not that I will be able to shut off my mind long enough to fall asleep.

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Posted 19 April 2014 - 09:32 PM

View PostIntermolecular Reality, on 19 April 2014 - 09:30 PM, said:

View Postlaughedatbytime, on 19 April 2014 - 09:23 PM, said:

View PostIntermolecular Reality, on 19 April 2014 - 09:18 PM, said:

I am still alive; I am so sorry for taking so long to respond. I hope no one thinks I was trying to ignore anyone... that's not it at all. I'm just feeling very sad, and needed to retreat for a while. I am feeling slightly better than I was earlier, but am nowhere near being okay. I will get through this though - what other choice is there? I thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for being so sincere and taking the time to respond. I didn't mean to worry/upset anyone. I'm so sorry if I have. What everyone has written on here has given me the strength I needed to emotionally stabilize and pick myself back up. It's wonderful to know there are still so many beautiful people in this world.
I'm SO glad to hear this...especially the part where you say you'll get through this. There's a lot of great advice that was offered here so here's hoping you take it to heart, and that things do get better for you...

Good thoughts are coming your way from a lot of good people here who have been touched by your story and who are rooting for you big time...
Thank you so much, laughedatbytime. I really would love to respond to everyone, but I would be sitting here for quite a while. Maybe I'll be able to work on that tomorrow. I have a horrible headache, and I think a good night's rest will do me some good, not that I will be able to shut off my mind long enough to fall asleep.
Getting some rest is a wonderful idea...good luck!

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Posted 19 April 2014 - 09:36 PM

View Postlaughedatbytime, on 19 April 2014 - 09:32 PM, said:

View PostIntermolecular Reality, on 19 April 2014 - 09:30 PM, said:

View Postlaughedatbytime, on 19 April 2014 - 09:23 PM, said:

View PostIntermolecular Reality, on 19 April 2014 - 09:18 PM, said:

I am still alive; I am so sorry for taking so long to respond. I hope no one thinks I was trying to ignore anyone... that's not it at all. I'm just feeling very sad, and needed to retreat for a while. I am feeling slightly better than I was earlier, but am nowhere near being okay. I will get through this though - what other choice is there? I thank everyone from the bottom of my heart for being so sincere and taking the time to respond. I didn't mean to worry/upset anyone. I'm so sorry if I have. What everyone has written on here has given me the strength I needed to emotionally stabilize and pick myself back up. It's wonderful to know there are still so many beautiful people in this world.
I'm SO glad to hear this...especially the part where you say you'll get through this. There's a lot of great advice that was offered here so here's hoping you take it to heart, and that things do get better for you...

Good thoughts are coming your way from a lot of good people here who have been touched by your story and who are rooting for you big time...
Thank you so much, laughedatbytime. I really would love to respond to everyone, but I would be sitting here for quite a while. Maybe I'll be able to work on that tomorrow. I have a horrible headache, and I think a good night's rest will do me some good, not that I will be able to shut off my mind long enough to fall asleep.
Getting some rest is a wonderful idea...good luck!
Thank you. :)

I certainly need it. I am so overwhelmed with stress right now.

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Posted 21 April 2014 - 07:13 PM

Hey IR, we haven't heard from you for a couple days.  Is everything alright?

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Posted 22 April 2014 - 02:03 AM

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Hey IR, we haven't heard from you for a couple days.  Is everything alright?
I am okay, thank you so much for asking. :)

Fortunately I was able to bail her out of jail, however she is facing quite an extensive list of charges:

☆Driving On A Suspended License
☆Expired Tag
☆Driving Without Insurance
☆Running A Red Light
☆Not Wearing A Seatbelt
☆Eluding An Officer

All of the money we have accumulated for moving is now going towards this, and I’m not even one-hundred percent certain as to whether or not she will be returning to jail. Everything always goes wrong all at once it seems, although it could be much worse, I suppose. I am beyond grateful for everything I do have right now. The songs The Enemy Within, Marathon, Prime Mover, and Survival (a song from Yes’ debut album) are helping me get through this. It’s amazing how music enables you to maintain a positive perspective even when it seems all hope is lost. Music truly is “a beacon in the darkness”.

Should anything else transpire, I will let you guys know. I'm sorry I did not update my situation sooner.

I thank everyone for being so kind and empathic... I will be keeping all of you in my thoughts.

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Posted 22 April 2014 - 02:17 AM

I'm glad things are a bit better. Keeping you in my thoughts.

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Posted 22 April 2014 - 08:50 AM

View PostIntermolecular Reality, on 22 April 2014 - 02:03 AM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 21 April 2014 - 07:13 PM, said:

Hey IR, we haven't heard from you for a couple days.  Is everything alright?
I am okay, thank you so much for asking. :)

Fortunately I was able to bail her out of jail, however she is facing quite an extensive list of charges:

☆Driving On A Suspended License
☆Expired Tag
☆Driving Without Insurance
☆Running A Red Light
☆Not Wearing A Seatbelt
☆Eluding An Officer

All of the money we have accumulated for moving is now going towards this, and I’m not even one-hundred percent certain as to whether or not she will be returning to jail. Everything always goes wrong all at once it seems, although it could be much worse, I suppose. I am beyond grateful for everything I do have right now. The songs The Enemy Within, Marathon, Prime Mover, and Survival (a song from Yes’ debut album) are helping me get through this. It’s amazing how music enables you to maintain a positive perspective even when it seems all hope is lost. Music truly is “a beacon in the darkness”.

Should anything else transpire, I will let you guys know. I'm sorry I did not update my situation sooner.

I thank everyone for being so kind and empathic... I will be keeping all of you in my thoughts.

The expired tags, suspended license and no insurance are probably done deals since those are difficult to argue against.  But, I did offer you some advice on the others.  Check your messages :)

From what I could gather from Florida code, this is what I found:

Expired tags is an infraction - No jail time, pay a fine
Insurance violation is an infraction - No jail time, pay a fine and possible license suspension.

Suspended License:

First conviction is second degree misdemeanor - punishable by $500 fine
Second conviction is first degree misdemeanor - punishable by $1,000 fine
Third or any subsequent convictions is a third degree felony - punishable by $5,000 fine and possible jail time

I couldn't find if misdemeanors carry jail time in Florida.  I know that, in my state, misdemeanors and felonies do not have grades - they are one or the other.  Misdemeanors carry a possible sentence of up to a year in jail.  Jail time for felonies is determined by the specific crime committed.  I have rarely ever seen a person spend much time in jail for a suspended license though.  I think they would have to be a habitual offender in order for that to happen.  She should have access to a public defender, so they could clarify these points for her better than I can.

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Posted 22 April 2014 - 09:08 AM

View PostIntermolecular Reality, on 22 April 2014 - 02:03 AM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 21 April 2014 - 07:13 PM, said:

Hey IR, we haven't heard from you for a couple days.  Is everything alright?
I am okay, thank you so much for asking. :)

Fortunately I was able to bail her out of jail, however she is facing quite an extensive list of charges:

☆Driving On A Suspended License
☆Expired Tag
☆Driving Without Insurance
☆Running A Red Light
☆Not Wearing A Seatbelt
☆Eluding An Officer

All of the money we have accumulated for moving is now going towards this, and I’m not even one-hundred percent certain as to whether or not she will be returning to jail. Everything always goes wrong all at once it seems, although it could be much worse, I suppose. I am beyond grateful for everything I do have right now. The songs The Enemy Within, Marathon, Prime Mover, and Survival (a song from Yes’ debut album) are helping me get through this. It’s amazing how music enables you to maintain a positive perspective even when it seems all hope is lost. Music truly is “a beacon in the darkness”.

Should anything else transpire, I will let you guys know. I'm sorry I did not update my situation sooner.

I thank everyone for being so kind and empathic... I will be keeping all of you in my thoughts.

I'm glad to hear you're doing okay.  And sorry your mom (and you, by extension) is going through this.  I'm very happy that your music is there for you.  :hug2:

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Posted 22 April 2014 - 11:07 AM

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It’s amazing how music enables you to maintain a positive perspective even when it seems all hope is lost. Music truly is “a beacon in the darkness”.

Music has been a beacon in the darkness for many of us along our journey through life.   Sometimes it is the only friend you have.

I've been thinking that you are a candidate for The Who's  Quadrophenia.

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Posted 22 April 2014 - 11:35 AM

View PostIntermolecular Reality, on 22 April 2014 - 02:03 AM, said:

View Postx1yyz, on 21 April 2014 - 07:13 PM, said:

Hey IR, we haven't heard from you for a couple days.  Is everything alright?
I am okay, thank you so much for asking. :)

Fortunately I was able to bail her out of jail, however she is facing quite an extensive list of charges:

☆Driving On A Suspended License
☆Expired Tag
☆Driving Without Insurance
☆Running A Red Light
☆Not Wearing A Seatbelt
☆Eluding An Officer

All of the money we have accumulated for moving is now going towards this, and I’m not even one-hundred percent certain as to whether or not she will be returning to jail. Everything always goes wrong all at once it seems, although it could be much worse, I suppose. I am beyond grateful for everything I do have right now. The songs The Enemy Within, Marathon, Prime Mover, and Survival (a song from Yes’ debut album) are helping me get through this. It’s amazing how music enables you to maintain a positive perspective even when it seems all hope is lost. Music truly is “a beacon in the darkness”.

Should anything else transpire, I will let you guys know. I'm sorry I did not update my situation sooner.

I thank everyone for being so kind and empathic... I will be keeping all of you in my thoughts.

Just know that we are thinking of you daily even if we don't hear from each other.

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Posted 22 April 2014 - 12:48 PM

:heart: I just saw this thread! Hope you are feeling better and you feel you have some support! I saw that you were blaming yourself for some of the things that have happened. Please don't do that.

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Posted 22 April 2014 - 01:07 PM

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☆Driving On A Suspended License
☆Expired Tag
☆Driving Without Insurance
☆Running A Red Light
☆Not Wearing A Seatbelt
☆Eluding An Officer

I don't know how the courts work in Florida, but in my county in Western Wisconsin, these charges would most probably NOT lead to any jail time.  Fines and new suspensions of the driver's license would be the probable penalties.   Even violent offenders get off on probation in my county...... :eh:

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Posted 22 April 2014 - 01:08 PM

Keeping good thoughts for you, IR.




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