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Poll: Preferred Age Differences (20 member(s) have cast votes)

Ladies, which age do you prefer your men to be?

  1. Same age as you, give or take 5 years. (8 votes [26.67%])

    Percentage of vote: 26.67%

  2. Older than you 5+ years (6 votes [20.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 20.00%

  3. Older than you 10+ years (4 votes [13.33%])

    Percentage of vote: 13.33%

  4. Older than you 15+ years (4 votes [13.33%])

    Percentage of vote: 13.33%

  5. Older than you 20+ years and beyond (4 votes [13.33%])

    Percentage of vote: 13.33%

  6. Younger than you 5+ years (1 votes [3.33%])

    Percentage of vote: 3.33%

  7. Younger than you 10+ years (2 votes [6.67%])

    Percentage of vote: 6.67%

  8. Younger than you 15+ years (1 votes [3.33%])

    Percentage of vote: 3.33%

  9. Younger than you 20+ years and beyond (0 votes [0.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 0.00%

  10. I like em' just eligible to vote. (0 votes [0.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 0.00%

  11. I like em' just eligible to drink. (0 votes [0.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 0.00%

  12. I like em' geriatric and in need of a sponge bath and tapioca pudding. (0 votes [0.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 0.00%

  13. I like em' rich and almost dead. (0 votes [0.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 0.00%

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#21 Mara

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Posted 23 February 2014 - 08:58 PM

I've tended to gravitate towards older by about 10+ years.  I just turned 46, and my husband will turn 57 in April.  We've been married 11 years as of yesterday.

I will say this: an age difference like this is an issue when both the guy and the girl are younger (say 15 years and 26 years, illegal and yuck) and again when they're older.  When my husband & I married at 35 and 46, it wasn't a big deal at all.  But now we can see a bit more clearly down the road, and the truth is that he'll probably be slowing down somewhat earlier than I will.  There is also the sad possibility that I'll be widowed, given the fact that men have a shorter life expectancy and the already extant age gap.  But who knows?  I smoked for 25 years so it's quite possible he'll outlive me.  The SOB looks like he's in his mid-forties anyway, dammit - HE seems to have stopped aging!

I wouldn't change a thing, though.  Just pointing out that a significant age gap gets MORE significant as time passes.

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Posted 02 April 2014 - 11:45 AM

I guess I really don't care as long as he is smart, funny, secure and really "gets me."

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Posted 02 April 2014 - 02:30 PM

View PostMara, on 23 February 2014 - 08:58 PM, said:

I've tended to gravitate towards older by about 10+ years.  I just turned 46, and my husband will turn 57 in April.  We've been married 11 years as of yesterday.

I will say this: an age difference like this is an issue when both the guy and the girl are younger (say 15 years and 26 years, illegal and yuck) and again when they're older.  When my husband & I married at 35 and 46, it wasn't a big deal at all.  But now we can see a bit more clearly down the road, and the truth is that he'll probably be slowing down somewhat earlier than I will.  There is also the sad possibility that I'll be widowed, given the fact that men have a shorter life expectancy and the already extant age gap.  But who knows?  I smoked for 25 years so it's quite possible he'll outlive me.  The SOB looks like he's in his mid-forties anyway, dammit - HE seems to have stopped aging!

I wouldn't change a thing, though.  Just pointing out that a significant age gap gets MORE significant as time passes.

I always tell my husband I'll be changing his diapers right along with our grandkids' diapers lmao

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Posted 02 April 2014 - 03:41 PM

HARD TO FIND GOOD MEN MY AGE...SO I'LL TAKE SAME AGE OR OLDER.     :rose:

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Posted 02 April 2014 - 11:25 PM

My husband is 5 years older than I am, and it works. I wouldn't go with younger though. What can I say, I like a bit older men...always have.

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 10:11 AM

When I was in my teens, 20's and 30's I dug older dudes but the more I am hatin' this getting older bs I find myself looking at boys much younger than me thinking... young and dumb will do just fine and  no ties, they can keep their drama.
Booty call bay yeah! :haz:

Edited by Lady April, 03 April 2014 - 10:12 AM.


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Posted 03 April 2014 - 11:31 AM

View PostLady April, on 03 April 2014 - 10:11 AM, said:

When I was in my teens, 20's and 30's I dug older dudes but the more I am hatin' this getting older bs I find myself looking at boys much younger than me thinking... young and dumb will do just fine and  no ties, they can keep their drama.
Booty call bay yeah! :haz:
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#28 Lady April

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 11:37 AM

View PostNarpski, on 03 April 2014 - 11:31 AM, said:

View PostLady April, on 03 April 2014 - 10:11 AM, said:

When I was in my teens, 20's and 30's I dug older dudes but the more I am hatin' this getting older bs I find myself looking at boys much younger than me thinking... young and dumb will do just fine and  no ties, they can keep their drama.
Booty call bay yeah! :haz:
You gotta love anyone, male or female, who knows what they want and like and go for it..... :cheers: to life and the pursuit of happiness.... :) You only get one

Totally :lol: but first I have to deal with the most ungratifying marriage ever... :unsure:

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 11:41 AM

View PostLady April, on 03 April 2014 - 11:37 AM, said:

View PostNarpski, on 03 April 2014 - 11:31 AM, said:

View PostLady April, on 03 April 2014 - 10:11 AM, said:

When I was in my teens, 20's and 30's I dug older dudes but the more I am hatin' this getting older bs I find myself looking at boys much younger than me thinking... young and dumb will do just fine and  no ties, they can keep their drama.
Booty call bay yeah! :haz:
You gotta love anyone, male or female, who knows what they want and like and go for it..... :cheers: to life and the pursuit of happiness.... :) You only get one

Totally :lol: but first I have to deal with the most ungratifying marriage ever... :unsure:
Depending on how you define "ungratifying", you may be preaching to the choir... :unsure:

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 11:46 AM

View PostNarpski, on 03 April 2014 - 11:41 AM, said:

View PostLady April, on 03 April 2014 - 11:37 AM, said:

View PostNarpski, on 03 April 2014 - 11:31 AM, said:

View PostLady April, on 03 April 2014 - 10:11 AM, said:

When I was in my teens, 20's and 30's I dug older dudes but the more I am hatin' this getting older bs I find myself looking at boys much younger than me thinking... young and dumb will do just fine and  no ties, they can keep their drama.
Booty call bay yeah! :haz:
You gotta love anyone, male or female, who knows what they want and like and go for it..... :cheers: to life and the pursuit of happiness.... :) You only get one

Totally :lol: but first I have to deal with the most ungratifying marriage ever... :unsure:
Depending on how you define "ungratifying", you may be preaching to the choir... :unsure:

Yeah exactly lol. Though I do have to say mine is like... 5% better...

#31 Ya_Big_Tree

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 11:52 AM

View Postumoveme, on 02 April 2014 - 11:45 AM, said:

I guess I really don't care as long as he is smart, funny, secure and really "gets me."
Thats the trick. I was lucky enough to find someone who REALLY gets me... not gets me for a while and then says "You're too f***ing crazy for me to deal with!" or "Why can't you be normal?!" He's seen my crazy and loves me still. Encourages me to be the woman I want to be and is so supportive all of the time.  It doesn't matter our ages are so different we are exactly who we need in our lives (both ways) and our relationship is our business.

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 12:59 PM

Seems kinda silly to me.. How can you judge a person is based on their age? Isn't that generalizing?  

I'm 43.. Ok ladies.. How do you like me so far!  Lol

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 02:54 PM

View PostMMCXII, on 03 April 2014 - 12:59 PM, said:

Seems kinda silly to me.. How can you judge a person is based on their age? Isn't that generalizing?  

I'm 43.. Ok ladies.. How do you like me so far!  Lol

Yes and no. We can judge what we like based off of the ages of the partners we've enjoyed the most in the past. We can also judge by human development and were humans are supposed to be/act at certain ages. Not everybody falls into those categories of course but what I've learned from dating is that I most enjoy partners that are at least 15 years older than I am.

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 02:55 PM

View PostYa_Big_Tree, on 03 April 2014 - 11:52 AM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 02 April 2014 - 11:45 AM, said:

I guess I really don't care as long as he is smart, funny, secure and really "gets me."
Thats the trick. I was lucky enough to find someone who REALLY gets me... not gets me for a while and then says "You're too f***ing crazy for me to deal with!" or "Why can't you be normal?!" He's seen my crazy and loves me still. Encourages me to be the woman I want to be and is so supportive all of the time.  It doesn't matter our ages are so different we are exactly who we need in our lives (both ways) and our relationship is our business.

She said 'both ways' :P

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 03:04 PM

Ladies, I am writing a book with a female lead character and was wondering if any of you who like men 10+ years older than you could elaborate a little as to why.  My timeline is character gets married at 20 to her male professor who is 10 years older than her.  They get divorced ten years later when her husband starts feeling old and wants to get with 20 year old women again.  I guess i can see a student/teacher relationship starting but I would guess most of you who prefer older men probably didn't start this way.  What does a woman get out of the older man deal?

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 05:16 PM

View PostLady April, on 03 April 2014 - 02:55 PM, said:

View PostYa_Big_Tree, on 03 April 2014 - 11:52 AM, said:

View Postumoveme, on 02 April 2014 - 11:45 AM, said:

I guess I really don't care as long as he is smart, funny, secure and really "gets me."
Thats the trick. I was lucky enough to find someone who REALLY gets me... not gets me for a while and then says "You're too f***ing crazy for me to deal with!" or "Why can't you be normal?!" He's seen my crazy and loves me still. Encourages me to be the woman I want to be and is so supportive all of the time.  It doesn't matter our ages are so different we are exactly who we need in our lives (both ways) and our relationship is our business.

She said 'both ways' :P
Now why did I know YOU would be all over that lil comment?! :lol:

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 05:19 PM

View PostApollo, on 03 April 2014 - 03:04 PM, said:

Ladies, I am writing a book with a female lead character and was wondering if any of you who like men 10+ years older than you could elaborate a little as to why.  My timeline is character gets married at 20 to her male professor who is 10 years older than her.  They get divorced ten years later when her husband starts feeling old and wants to get with 20 year old women again.  I guess i can see a student/teacher relationship starting but I would guess most of you who prefer older men probably didn't start this way.  What does a woman get out of the older man deal?

Because Geddy Lee.

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 06:28 PM

View Postgangsterfurious, on 03 April 2014 - 05:19 PM, said:

Because Geddy Lee.

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 09:19 PM

View PostNarpski, on 03 April 2014 - 11:41 AM, said:

View PostLady April, on 03 April 2014 - 11:37 AM, said:

View PostNarpski, on 03 April 2014 - 11:31 AM, said:

View PostLady April, on 03 April 2014 - 10:11 AM, said:

When I was in my teens, 20's and 30's I dug older dudes but the more I am hatin' this getting older bs I find myself looking at boys much younger than me thinking... young and dumb will do just fine and  no ties, they can keep their drama.
Booty call bay yeah! :haz:
You gotta love anyone, male or female, who knows what they want and like and go for it..... :cheers: to life and the pursuit of happiness.... :) You only get one

Totally :lol: but first I have to deal with the most ungratifying marriage ever... :unsure:
Depending on how you define "ungratifying", you may be preaching to the choir... :unsure:

Jeez Narp, we can sing in harmony then... :)

#40 Lady April

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Posted 03 April 2014 - 09:30 PM

View Postgangsterfurious, on 03 April 2014 - 02:54 PM, said:

View PostMMCXII, on 03 April 2014 - 12:59 PM, said:

Seems kinda silly to me.. How can you judge a person is based on their age? Isn't that generalizing?  

I'm 43.. Ok ladies.. How do you like me so far!  Lol

Yes and no. We can judge what we like based off of the ages of the partners we've enjoyed the most in the past. We can also judge by human development and were humans are supposed to be/act at certain ages. Not everybody falls into those categories of course but what I've learned from dating is that I most enjoy partners that are at least 15 years older than I am.

Not just that but also how we are raised and what we see and experience of relationships while growing up. Like me for example I went through enough hell that in adulthood I had sevear 'daddy' issues which is why I liked older men. In some cases much older! At this point of my life there is a lot of what-if's and hindsight going on Which is why i have worn myself thin with dudes older than me taking advantage of me or taking me for granted.So I think just based on your personal life experience is what you gravitate toward.





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