Rushchick10, on 09 February 2014 - 11:47 PM, said:
So, my only child...my son Alex (yes, named after Lerxst) Is 14 years old. He went from me threatening death if he didn't shower once a day, to being nearly obsessed with his appearance. I'm pretty sure there's a girl he is trying to impress. The kid showers at least twice a day, sometimes three times. While I'm glad that I have a little bit of a reprieve from the adolescent boy musk in the house, it's creating a lot more work for me. The laundry had almost doubled: it went from maybe three loads a week to about six. He's using the toothpaste and mouthwash like he'll never see the stuff again.
Like I said, I think a girl has sparked this sudden concern for hygiene. The poor kid has hit puberty WAY before his friends. He's had hairy legs and a bit of acne for over a year now. Plus, I noticed he is getting a mustache. None of his friends that I see regularly have this happening yet.
While we connect over comedy and music occasionally, I feel like I am losing touch with him. I'm a single mom, his biological father is almost completely absent, and he only sees his step dad once or twice a month at best. Anyone have any suggestions on how I can help him through this part of his life without being over-baring? He's my baby. He will always be my baby boy. It was a f-ing miracle that he's alive, so I want to help him make his life the best that he can. I want him to know that there is so much more to life than this dead-end town.
Obvisously I don't have kids, but I do have some thoughts that might help you anyway.
What you and he is going through is normal. He is beginning to learn what it will mean to stand on his own. He is spreading his wings and learning to fly
. To you it might seem like he is forgetting everything about you, or acts like nothing you do is good enough. Going from a little kid who follows his parents footsteps, to an adolescent who needs to find his own way is daunting, and often so they step over the line in search for it.
My advice is for you to be a steadfast rock he can count on. He might not show appreciation for it now, but believe me if you show him that you are there for him whenever he feels lost, he will know what a true safe haven is, and love you even more so.