I guess I should give you guys an update.
Earlier this year when Rush tickets went on sale we bought seats in Salt Lake and Denver and decided to road trip. And I used to live in Utah so we decided to spend a few days there before the show so that I could show him around and meet up with some old friends, etc...
The day of our trip I woke up at 5:30, worked from 7-3, we left for Park City at 4 pm and arrived there at 5:30 am the next morning SERIOUSLY talking about getting a divorce and screaming at each other. Yeah, so much fun.
Anyway, we got a few hours of sleep and decided that we'd still go do the things we planned in Park City so we found ourselves locked in a gondola together, going up one of the mountains and trying to hug it out even though I'm pretty sure we both wanted to push the other person out of the gondola and down the mountain. I made a smartass remark on Facebook about how we were ready for our divorce and a bunch of married friends and family members chimed in with their road trip stories, each and every one of them said it was the ultimate test of a marriage. So I calmed down a bit and thought "OK well, if EVERYBODY is saying this is normal and the majority of them are still married, maybe we can survive this." And I showed him their remarks and it calmed him down as well to know that we weren't alone in our experience.
During our trip we also met up with a few of my friends in Utah that I've known from anywhere from 12-16 years and we ended up talking about marriage and relationships and they gave us a lot of insight to what works and what doesn't, etc...
But what really helped is that when I was at my church bookstore in Salt Lake I saw this book called "The 5 Love Languages" and I really felt like I had to buy it so I did and then two nights later we were in Denver at the bar of the Hotel Monaco and we met this guy Darren, and he started talking to us and somehow marriage came up and he mentioned the book to us and said that we HAD to read it because it saved his marriage and made everything better because he and his wife began to understand each other's needs and personalities better.
Anyway, long story short, we ended up chatting with him for about four hours - between meeting Geddy's keyboard tech Tony, another Rush friend I knew from Facebook, and Gerry and Mario from the string section (crazy night, I know) and all the while the band Cheep Trick was in the bar as well - and it helped us A LOT.
Also, when we were in Salt Lake I surprised my husband with minor league baseball tickets to see the SL Bees play the Iowa Cubs (he is from Iowa and LOVES the Chicago Cubbies). During the game I got up to go get some dinner and unbeknownst to me my husband went to go get another beer. When I came back with my food his eyes were red and watery and at first I was thinking "Geeze, the beer here is only 3.5% and he's only starting his second, he can't be that
drunk yet." When I sat down he told me he had been crying because after he came back to his seat he looked down and noticed his wedding ring was missing and hadn't felt it fall off or anything so he ran back up to where he had bought his beer, and into the team store and was panicking until the woman at the beer cart found it on the ground by the drain.
He also apologized to me about not proposing to me like he wanted to, without me bringing it up. It made things better, he said he was just really excited to give me the ring and I know he was being sincere.
So yeah, things aren't perfect but they are a lot better. We had a lot of help from my friends and that man that we met in Denver I think our trip to see Rush may have saved us, we'll see.
Edited by gangsterfurious, 24 August 2013 - 10:26 AM.