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#1 ericplayzbass

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 05:43 AM

I've been going out with my girlfriend of right now for 13 months, but she doesn't like Rush, and that's kind of a deal breaker in the marriage field (only here could anyone understand that statement  biggrin.gif )

I am 17 (will be Eighteen on 9/6/10)

Why is it so hard to find a girl my age like this:


Favorite band: Rush (obviously)
Religious views: doesn't really matter, preferably atheist or at least skeptical.
Looks: aren't all that important but obviously plays a factor, I like red heads.
Movies: comedies mostly, or Rush videos
Likes computers


With music being such a MASSIVE part of my life (taking up much of my day), a girl that doesn't like Rush is probably one of the worst things.



Now my question to you ladies, am I setting my standards way too high and being unrealistic or does a woman like this exist?

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 07:56 AM

Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. yes.gif  

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 08:06 AM

QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 08:56 AM)
Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. yes.gif

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Definitely...take Tick's advice!

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 09:52 AM

QUOTE (EmotionDetector @ Aug 16 2010, 08:06 AM)
QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 08:56 AM)
Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. yes.gif

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Definitely...take Tick's advice!

Exactly.  My wife never heard of Rush until we met as she was into other bands such as Go-Go's, Bangles, George Michael, etc (Clarification: this was 91 when we met wink.gif ).  After a while, she came to like Rush.  Heck, she even said after the S&A concert that witnessing Tom Sawyer live was worth the price of admission alone.  smile.gif


Just because she doesn't like Rush now, doesn't mean that she won't in the future.  biggrin.gif

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 10:53 AM

QUOTE (ForceTen @ Aug 16 2010, 10:52 AM)
QUOTE (EmotionDetector @ Aug 16 2010, 08:06 AM)
QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 08:56 AM)
Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. yes.gif

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Definitely...take Tick's advice!

Exactly.  My wife never heard of Rush until we met as she was into other bands such as Go-Go's, Bangles, George Michael, etc (Clarification: this was 91 when we met wink.gif ).  After a while, she came to like Rush.  Heck, she even said after the S&A concert that witnessing Tom Sawyer live was worth the price of admission alone.  smile.gif


Just because she doesn't like Rush now, doesn't mean that she won't in the future.  biggrin.gif

So true, and in the grand scheme of things it really shouldn't matter that much (and I say this as a female whose Rush-love far exceeds that of her husband).  
It's nice, and necessary, to maintain interests independent of your SO's.  Sure, it would be great if you found the perfect girl AND she loves Rush, but if not - well, it's one of those things you can enjoy with other friends.  

The only caveat would be if you found a girlfriend who not only hated the band but hated your love for them as well.  When it crosses the line into "no, you're not listening to that band when I'm in the car" or worse:  "no, I hate Rush and you're not going to the concert because I don't want to go and you aren't going to a concert without me", then there are problems.  

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 11:06 AM

QUOTE (Mara @ Aug 16 2010, 10:53 AM)
It's nice, and necessary, to maintain interests independent of your SO's.

I can not express it enough how important this is.


So, say you find The Woman in your life who loves Rush.  Then you guys fight over other important stuff (finances, religion [what if she was super religious??], general beliefs) and you break up.  Every time you hear Rush, you are going to think of her.  Trust me.  


I'm quite happy my fiance is not into Rush like I am (though he likes them).  It's my thing, always has been and I like it that way.  If he loved the band, that'd be great, but it's not necessary by any means.  And I'd be missing out on a helluva great man if I broke the deal over a band.

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 11:09 AM

I'm a Rush girl! Where's my Rush man?  huh.gif No, don't make that your main priority. If you do, you'll be very disappointed.  tongue.gif  

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 11:28 AM

QUOTE (iluvgeddy05 @ Aug 16 2010, 11:06 AM)
what if she was super religious??

Been there, done that.  We're still together after 18+ years and she's not as religious as she once was.  Guess all the debates between us had something to do with it.  Not to mention the pastor was afraid we'd be divorced in "a few short years".  


See?  Women CAN be trained.   2.gif



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Posted 16 August 2010 - 11:48 AM

QUOTE (ForceTen @ Aug 16 2010, 11:28 AM)
QUOTE (iluvgeddy05 @ Aug 16 2010, 11:06 AM)
what if she was super religious??

Been there, done that.  We're still together after 18+ years and she's not as religious as she once was.  Guess all the debates between us had something to do with it.  Not to mention the pastor was afraid we'd be divorced in "a few short years".  


See?  Women CAN be trained.   2.gif



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bah!



I think you're lucky though; some couples can't get past political/religious views.  trink39.gif  

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 12:52 PM

QUOTE (iluvgeddy05 @ Aug 16 2010, 11:48 AM)
bah!



I think you're lucky though; some couples can't get past political/religious views.  trink39.gif

You're absolutely right.  I am very lucky to have my wife and she says the same about me.  We respect and appreciate each other while realizing that we each need our own space as well.  smile.gif

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 01:11 PM

Hah, I thought the same thing when it came to guys.
But yeah, it was very disappointing. I wouldn't make not
liking Rush a deal breaker, as long as you're happy it shouldn't matter; especially at the age of seventeen. Guys at my school obsess over the stupidest groups. I know your pain. Who knows, maybe she'll have a change of heart? confused13.gif

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 01:37 PM

QUOTE (ericplayzbass @ Aug 16 2010, 11:43 AM)
I've been going out with my girlfriend of right now for 13 months, but she doesn't like Rush, and that's kind of a deal breaker in the marriage field (only here could anyone understand that statement  biggrin.gif )

I am 17 (will be Eighteen on 9/6/10)

Why is it so hard to find a girl my age like this:


Favorite band: Rush (obviously)
Religious views: doesn't really matter, preferably atheist or at least skeptical.
Looks: aren't all that important but obviously plays a factor, I like red heads.
Movies: comedies mostly, or Rush videos
Likes computers


With music being such a MASSIVE part of my life (taking up much of my day), a girl that doesn't like Rush is probably one of the worst things.



Now my question to you ladies, am I setting my standards way too high and being unrealistic or does a woman like this exist?

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You have much to learn, young grasshopper....

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 01:45 PM

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When it crosses the line into "no, you're not listening to that band when I'm in the car" or worse: "no, I hate Rush and you're not going to the concert because I don't want to go and you aren't going to a concert without me", then there are problems.



that's exactly how it is.


the music is really important to me. If she liked rock and roll in general, preferably classic rock, that would be totally fine, but she makes me listen to lady Gaga in the car, and it's infuriating.




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Posted 16 August 2010 - 02:08 PM

QUOTE (ericplayzbass @ Aug 16 2010, 02:45 PM)
the music is really important to me. If she liked rock and roll in general, preferably classic rock, that would be totally fine, but she makes me listen to lady Gaga in the car, and it's infuriating.

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So, make her listen to RUSH in YOUR car!

Problem solved.  biggrin.gif  

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 02:15 PM

QUOTE (ericplayzbass @ Aug 16 2010, 01:45 PM)
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When it crosses the line into "no, you're not listening to that band when I'm in the car" or worse: "no, I hate Rush and you're not going to the concert because I don't want to go and you aren't going to a concert without me", then there are problems.



that's exactly how it is.


the music is really important to me. If she liked rock and roll in general, preferably classic rock, that would be totally fine, but she makes me listen to lady Gaga in the car, and it's infuriating.

Ahh, to be young, naive, and in love...

Sometimes you have to concede in order to make things work.  If the relationship is all about either of you, it most likely won't last.  

If the music is really the only thing that's bugging you about the relationship, that's small potatoes.  At least you didn't have to escort your wife and girlfriends to a George Michael concert because they were afraid of being hit on...  banghead.gif

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 02:37 PM

QUOTE (Mara @ Aug 16 2010, 10:53 AM)
The only caveat would be if you found a girlfriend who not only hated the band but hated your love for them as well.  When it crosses the line into "no, you're not listening to that band when I'm in the car" or worse:  "no, I hate Rush and you're not going to the concert because I don't want to go and you aren't going to a concert without me", then there are problems.

QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 08:56 AM)
Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. yes.gif


I agree with both Mara & Tick whole heartedly. I've been with my husband for 21 years now and he is far from a Rush fan. So far it's worked out just fine. There are some bands that we like as a couple, but for the most part I don't like his taste in music and he doesn't like mine. And it's totally fine because we connect on other levels.

And at 17...why are you looking for marriage anyway? Get out there and enjoy your young life.

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 02:43 PM

You've been dating since you were about 15 then?  And you wonder if she's marriage type because she dislikes RUSH?

While I wish you the best in your young love...please chill.  The boy I loved at 17 is about 2 great loves, a husband and a myriad of lovers ago.   You go enjoy RUSH, let her enjoy Gaga.  Hell, enjoy LIFE!



Besides, there are RUSH men on here that have been known to sing both Gaga and Alicia Keys...but I promised I'd never out them. tongue.gif  

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 02:43 PM

QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 07:56 AM)
Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. yes.gif

Tick's got a point there. You may be being too selective. There are a lot of good girls out there who may not appreciate or like rush. My gf was never much of a rush fan, but she's getting into them now that she's with me. She's reading "ghost rider" right now and digging it. But to DEMAND that she be a rush fan before you marry her? That may be unrealistic. Don't shoot yourself in the foot, man!  dazed025.gif

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 02:52 PM

It's not that it would be impossible for me to be with a non-rush fan, but seeing as I spend on average 6-8 hours a day listening to rush, it would kinda hard to avoid, know what I mean?


Love and emotion isn't a subject I am very knowledgeable on, as I usually try to approach things with reason, but when I started dating Shelby I threw off those chains of reason and my prison almost disappeared, except for the rush thing. I could care less that she's catholic at this point, but not liking rush is akin to telling me my whole family died. maybe not as bad, but close.

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Posted 16 August 2010 - 03:55 PM

QUOTE (the masked drummer @ Aug 16 2010, 03:43 PM)
QUOTE (tick @ Aug 16 2010, 07:56 AM)
Not liking Rush is a deal breaker? You might want to rethink that one. yes.gif

Tick's got a point there. You may be being too selective. There are a lot of good girls out there who may not appreciate or like rush. My gf was never much of a rush fan, but she's getting into them now that she's with me. She's reading "ghost rider" right now and digging it. But to DEMAND that she be a rush fan before you marry her? That may be unrealistic. Don't shoot yourself in the foot, man!  dazed025.gif

In all fairness, if my husband made me listen to GaGa I might be inclined to schedule a serious chat with him over that.  Some things you just do not do to people you love.  




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